What would you think?

[pucca]

If you found this in your husbands sent messages on facebook?......

sorry about that, she came in. if i am on line i will get you by chat, dont just shout me because sometimes she logs into my account and dont want her seeing that chat from last night. i am trying to find how to get the chat on my laptop. speak soon xx.

dont reply to this, send me a email on .

Hope you are OK pucca

I am in the NW, if there is anything I can do

(lulumama and trinityrhino can vouch for me, i.e. that I am not hairy or into trucks)

Let us know how you are, when you can

Pucca, have just caught up with this thread - how awful for you.
Your H is playing mind games with you - I have had this done to me too by an unfaithful bloke - they do and say the most outlandish and unreasonable stuff, virtually PUSHING you into dumping them, and when you persist in clinging on, they just escalate it until you a) can't stand it any more and end it or b) find out that they are seeing someone else, which leads to a) anyway.

His text is out of order - either push off and let me do my own thing, or put up and shut up and let me do my own thing. Either way, he gets to do his own thing, and you get what? A half life of miserable suspicion.

He can't make you leave. It's as much your house as his. I don't know what your situation would be regarding benefits etc. if he leaves, so you must get to CAB asap.

Search deep within you and ask yourself: Do you want to live with this behaviour for the rest of your days? Can you trust him? Aren't you worth more than this? And what is your love now based on, if he has emotionally left the relationship?

I might be being a tad premature with some of that, but if it doesn't help immediately, it will when it matters.

for you.

pucca how sad.

Can you not set him up as to speak, lay low for a bit and when he announces a night out/somethingout of the ordinary get dc minded and follow him.
Take it easy andkeep strong until u decide w
hat to do. Does sound very sus really. sorry

How are you feeling this morning, Pucca?

Did you talk last night?

Hi everyone, thanks for all the messages.

I didn't get the chance to come back last night as he was here.

Things are a bit strained, but what can i do? i have no real proof do i, and there is no point driving myself mad as if he is seeing her there is nothing i can do to physically stop that. What will be will be.

I will however be very vigilant as to what is going on, where he is etc etc, and if it does come to light that he has definately been seeing her then i will be booting him out with a kick up the arse.

Thankyou for all the help, advice and support, i really really appreciate it.

Did you do as he asked and not bring the subject up?

No we did talk, well i talked he listened and said the same old shit, and tried to put it on me. In the end he said sorry etc etc.

What else can i do? I don't trust him now though.

So sorry.

How are things today, pucca?

Hope you are OK, Pucca