So if you saw an email / text message sent to your DH which said....

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...."OK so you need to meet me halfway. I need to be more understanding and you need to relax more".

Can I ask what your immediate reaction would be?

I would flip out.

it could be a message to a colleague / boss

or a friend

a relative, maybe a parent

or another woman

don;t flip yet

My immediate reaction would be to get more information, but at the same time sceptical about any excuses....

sounds like an email I'd send to a colleague I'd fallen out with

I suppose it could be interpreted a variety of ways dep. on the current state of your r'ship with yr. DH and the context of the r'ship. It co9uld be work related - a diff. client, fraught mtg with a manager etc. Could be something else but do you have any reason to doubt your DH?

Would definitely be asking questions

But who was it from??

Agree that when I read it - it sounded like 2 colleagues

if it smells like smoke and looks like smoke....

i would assume he was having an affair,and rather than flipping out which is what i did when i found similar i would investigate as much as possible before confronting him with the evidence. I would also realise he will lie through his teeth about every little thing to stop me finding out any more. hth.

I would be finding out more information. I here that grabbing someone by the balls and twisting is a useful way of getting a heads up

It could mean absolutely anything - what does he do? It could be work etc.

Well - apparently it was from a colleague and to do with a difficult work situation. It good to get some perspective on it from all you wise ladies I have to say.

Normally, I don't think I would ever have thought any more about it - apart from the wording being slightly odd, but recently things between me and DH have been a bit strained and it just me thinking.

Love him to pieces - just life gets on top of us sometimes...

who is it from. is there a name? or just a number?

tbh, i'd have suspcions, whilst hoping it was just a colleagues' tiff.

Twas a female colleague....

hmm, well, they may not be having an affiar, but each obviously wants the good opinion of the other if you see what i mean.

i'd keep an eye out.

And to add - I have had no reason previously not to trust him, he is a fantastic father and I believe still loves me and our DCs..... It just made me feel really uncomfortable...

why not see if it's still there

deletion speaks volumes

also make a note of the number...

knowledge is power

Phone is and always has been password protected...

Agree with ronaldinhio, i'm very cynical atm and would think the worst, hope for your sake i am completly wrong.

I think that's it Dittany and Mutt - it's the second half of the message that is not sitting well.

how did you see it this time?