So if you saw an email / text message sent to your DH which said....

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...."OK so you need to meet me halfway. I need to be more understanding and you need to relax more".

Can I ask what your immediate reaction would be?

Password protected may be so that work colleagues don't access his data.

Here a test. If he takes photos of the kids on his phone, ask for the password so you can have access to the pictures.

Why is phone password protected?

To me it all depends on the job he does/the work environment. If highly pressurised the use of the word 'relax' would be quite normal.

You know 'relax' - take a chill pill etc.

Saw it this time as the children were playing with the phone and it just popped up onto the screen.

I don't have an issue with the password protect at all, as it's a work phone and has work related contact details and emails on it.

My phone and Blackberry are protected too...

at marriage counselling!

I sincerely hope that I am reading way too much into this and probably just need to have a heart to heart with DH to clear the air...

It's just not the way you'd speak to a colleague by text
if it was a difficult situation you'd speak to each other about it face to face

imho

Difficult situation sounds plausible and he has previously mentioned this person's name...just not the situation before if that makes sense..

I'll go home in a while - still at work unfortunately and talk to him about how it has made me feel...

I know what you mean Mutt - I've been agonising over the same thing since Saturday lunchtime!

I have a male work colleague who I can imagine sending me a message like that and there's nothing going on, so I do think it could be innocent.

I think it could mean absolutely anything and nothing.
it is a perfectly innocent remark tbh and (a) why are you reading his texts and emails? and (b) "testing" your dh and checking his phone is not the sign of trust tbh.
in his shoes I would be very very angry if my partner felt the need to test me.

OK let's be clear here - I haven't been checking his phone at all. I was sitting next to my DC at lunchtime - they were playing with the phone and this message came on screen right in front of me. Have you not read my previous posts?

Also - can I ask where I have said that I'm going to 'test' him?

I could absolutely imagine sending this to a work colleague.
much depends on your relationship with your friends and colleagues.
speculation is dangerous and insidious imo. talk to him about it.

Thanks - look a few posts up and you'll see that that is what I've said I'm going to do

I was responding to the other people on this thread suggesting that you should check his phone again to see if there is anything still on it, investigating as much as possible, grabbing him by the balls and twisting them
I was not saying you would do any of those things, just appalled at the reactions and suggestions on here.

There could be a very reasonable explanation.

How are you going to get it into the conversation?

One thing - if he was up to anything dodgy he wouldn't let his phone out of his sight - let alone the children play with it.

I could be completely wrong but I think it is all entirely explainable/innocent and like all of us good ladies your mind has gone into overdrive.

HC - OK - see your point.

loveymdog - no need to think about that, I'll just tell him it made me feel rubbish and see what he says. I'm not backward at coming forward so to speak...

Good! Dollars to donuts, it was innocent, but the first reaction is a bit