FAB & GLAM PART 8 - Onwards and Upwards!

[ginnny]

8000 posts - how do we find so much to talk about

Ladylush, I am SO sorry to hear your news . It must be devastating. Hope the tests throw up something. My exH has a cousin who kept having MCs - eventually her consultant found that there was something in her body that kept rejecting the foetus as an alien. She was put on a course of drugs that worked and she was eventually able to have two children. Has this possibility been explored with you?

Dior, thanks for the update from PC. That sounds so hopeful. (tentative ). Please give her our love.

Hi Tanee - there are two immunological problems. One is a clotting disorder and the other is where natural killer cells attack the embryo as they recognise it as foreign. I've been checked for the first and I don't have it. Haven't been checked for the latter, though it seems to be a controversial theory. Which condition did your friend have?

I mean your ex h's cousin - though she could be a friend I suppose

She was a friend as well as cousin-in-law, but sadly that friendship ended with my marriage . She had the second problem - killer cells. It seems to be something that can be controlled - at least, it worked for her.

Hope things go better for you in the future. I had one MC before DD, and even though I hadn't planned the pregnancy, I still felt dreadfully sad when it ended - and guilt, that I hadn't wanted it enough.

So sorry LL

LL I'm so so sorry to read that

I can't find the words right now.

Thinking of you xxxxx

Lovely to read the positive news about PC's brother xx

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Dior
How ww going - have you managed to get back on track this week.

I have so far lost 9lbs - and i am already feeling a bit better.
Even if i end up putting it all back at xmas it will be worth it.
I am hoping to have lost at least a stone by xmas and i am sure i wont be able to put that much on in just 2 weeks.

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Thanks Baffy. Dior - were her m/c consecutive? HW - well done on weight loss Dior - admire your honesty. Hope you can get back on the wagon soon

Did some retail therapy today. Bought a designer handbag reduced from £250.00 to £78.00 because I'm worth it Been looking for a nice black bag for work for some time.

Oh sorry didn't read properly....sorry you were feeling ill Dior. Hope you are better now.

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Thanks, well three consecutive is still counted as recurrent m/c so it gives me a bit of hope that she still went on to have more children after that.

Just a quick note for those who don't know - cashncarry had a 'super fast arrival' in the night - baby boy, 8.5lbs, just after midnight

Sounds like cnc was a star

Any news on PC's brother?

LL how are you holding up?

It's my 5th wedding anniversary today so am feeling a bit strange and empty. Need to keep busy. Lovely to hear cnc's news though

Well done Cashncarry! Hope you are both well.

Im off sick with depression now - seeing Doc today to doscuss going back on the ADs, counselling next week. Im at rock bottom about so many things, so I wont stay on and go on. I will pop on to see how people are, esp PC and her brother.

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Fubsy, do post if you think it will help {{{hugs}}} xx

Dior - you know only too well you can do it.
And you also know that you have to be in the right frame of mind.

We will do it together in the new year as i am sure by then i will need all the support i can get.

Well dont CnC

Fusby - we are here if you need us

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Oh congrats CnC - and welcome to Baby Teabag .

Fubsy, sorry you are feeling low. Please feel free to vent anytime.

Baffy, anniversaries are hard - and I speak as the protagonist in my breakup. Even though I was the one who had the affair, I still felt sad on every anniversary -but this year, for the first time since we split up, I actually forgot the day - it's six years since H left, so it's taken me that long. I still try to think of the good things, especially when talking to DD, so she has positive feelings about her parents, even though she knows I wasn't happy. I'm sure you'll do the same.

LL, hope you enjoy the handbag. And you know, MCs are so common - I didn't realise how common until I had one and so many people at work told me their stories. I really hope things work out for you in time .

DD and I went to the Annie Liebowitz photo exhibition yesterday. I didn't realise she had 3 children after the age of 50 !!! I asked DD how she'd feel if I had one now. She said she'd be likely to leave home - and I admitted I'd probably be right behind her !

Oh, and glad to report that DP is still being good. He even suggested that he and I watch a DVD early on Thursday evening so that DD and I could see Buzzcocks and Lead Balloon later, and when the film didn't finish in time, was happy to stop it and watch the ending after LB was over! Seems my 'step back' strategy is working . If he says anything negative, I say something positive and move swiftly on. We've even agreed to have a bottle of sparkly tonight to celebrate his starting in panto on Monday. (he still drinks a lot, but I don't comment on it).

Ginnny, haven't heard from you for awhile. How are things your end?

Thanks for the kind words, all.

Baffy, hope the anniversary wasnt too hard. I suppose one good thing about not actually being married is not having a real anniversary to remember.

I started on meds last night, so have spent most of today feeling wazzed. Not having eaten much all week and having AF this week isnt helping that.

DD is with X this weekend, so I am feeling very alone and low. The GP was very nice and supportive, and has signed me off for 2 weeks. I am just going to have to make sure I dont spend them staring at the TV.

You know how if there is a big accident or something they take off any telly that might remind people of it - well this last week I dont seem able to avoid programmes about selling houses, people in crap relationships or with mental health problems. I actually watched Top Gear for an hour one afternoon just to avoid house buying/selling progs.

Congrats CNC when you up to it pop on and let us know how it went!

Fubsy sorry things aren't good for you at the moment!

Don't know if any of you got PC text.
Nick is still stable and making progress slowly. He is responding to commands and seems to recognise his family. He is sitting up in a a chair every day. Neurosurgeon says he will need a great deal of rehab it will be many months of hard work.Impossible to say what the extent of the lasting damage will be. Suffice to say he is lucky to be alive!

PC just to let you know you and your family are still in my thoughts as it sounds like you have tough days ahead of you. Just to say it is very kind of you to keep us all informed of what's happening. And still saying a prayer for you all!

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Lily - Love the new name.
Glad to hear Nick is doing so well.
Fubsy - don't ever worry about ranting on here. We all do it and it does help get things off your chest.
CnC - Congratulations. I'm a little . I'm getting so broody lately.
Baffy - Hope you are OK and not feeling too sick. The anniversary is another milestone out of the way. Now you can look forward to your new life with ds and the new baby.
LL - hope you are bearing up OK and enjoying the handbag.
Tannee - Good to hear things are better again with dp. You are obviously handling him in just the right way!
Dp and I have just come back from a long weekend in Blackpool. We had a lovely time and things are going really really well. Don't want to say too much in case I jinx it all but we are very happy and he is behaving himself.
Sorry if I've left anyone out!

Hi all

Glad things are going well for you ginnny - but you did miss me out.

Feeling a bit 'flat' at the moment - not sad and i dont think i am depressed, i just sort of feel 'is this it then'?
I feel happy enough, but just dont seem to be able to get my arse into gear over anything.

I too am broody - but know i am too old to have anymore and i do wonder if i am appoaching menopause. I have not reached the offical age yet but i do feel as if it may be my hormones doing this to me iyswim.
Its as if a phase of my life is about to pass (being able to have children), and although i dont really want anymore i also feel its a decision that is being taken away from me.

I certainly do feel a bit weird for sure.

Anyway hope everyone else is ok and getting a bit more into the festive spirit than me - went shopping today and feel like scrooge - yet i need to do loads.