How often do you have sex?

[charx]

I'm doing a straw poll here. DH says I'm not normal. According to him everyone else is having sex 3 or 4 times a week.
I'm a SAHM to a DD (2). I'm just pretty tired most of the time. I know it doesn't help that I have low self esteem with regard to body image/weight issues etc) but I really struggle to get into the mood to have sex. So at this moment in time I'm averaging once every 8 weeks.

Anyone else want to share?

i dont have a partner, so am averaging every couple of weeks atm

5 years on from DS my libido has up and left and I never feel the need for sex. Too tired/stressed. I can't get it togther to enjoy myself alone either

Strangly though my poor body image has improved tremedously. Poor DH, I'm appreciating my curves but not into sharing them IYKWIM

I'm seeing the GP tomorrow and will mention it.

I have a 3 year old and we have been together for 14 years. We have sex 1-2 times a week on average, but when ds was a baby we had sex about 3 times in the first year...

DH and I seem to average about twice a week, although this can vary enormously depending upon what else is going on with work, DCs, life, etc - the more spare time we have, the more we shag . Both have quite a high sex drive so this works for us, but surely in any relationship it doen't matter how often providing both partners are happy?

Last time I had sex was 8 years ago.

So to answer op, I would have to say 'infrequently'

Blimey, who has your DH been talking to? 3 or 4 times a week! More like 3 or 4 times a month here.

We have two young children, DH has stressful job and we are just too tired! We have a happy and loving relationship and I am happy with my sex life. Am going to ask DH tonight if he is tho!

I would say about 10 times since i fell pg with dd2 who is just a year old. And yet i seem to be pg again.

Could you not explain to your dh that an average means some people are haveing lots of sex and some are having none. Both of which are normal for them.

Instead of him moaning he should help around the house so you are not so tired. and also make an effort to make you feel like you want sex.

Well, Dh would love to have it 3-4 times a week - that's his ideal.

I on the other hand, think that the once a week (twice if he's lucky) we have at the moment is just fine.

Used to be once a year and we have worked hard to get me in the mood more often. (less tired was the biggy. The rest just came.)

Prob about once every 3 weeks. I seem to have a fairly low sex drive but feel I should put more effort in to make it more often as once I get going I love it. But going to sleep is always more tempting! I have 2 dc - 3 and 10m.

I suffer am Bipolar so whin im on a high every day when im on a low about once a month if he's luck, when im feeling stable about once a week.

Are you for real Moondog? Have you actually seen Charx's explanation of WHY there isn't much sex going on at the moment? Jesus, give the woman a break. It's a wonder it's happening at all. Sounds like a really stressful life she's got there at the moment with her husband not actually BEING there much. It's pretty hard to have sex with someone who isn't even in the same house as you until after 10.30 at night, a time when most mums are knackered.

Charx, I'm hoping it's a wind-up post by Moondog, but ignore it anyway.

You need an undestanding DP who won't put any pressure on you. My DH's idea of getting me in the mood is whispering to me that I'm "going to get the hot beef injection tonight", with a smirk on his face. Thing is, smutty jokes used to make us both laugh but now I feel like I've grown out of that and want to be romanced, godammit! I want to knee him in his bloody hot beef when he comes out with that line. Yes, funny about 10 years ago when we were young and daft but not anymore and after the 200th time of saying it - wears thin after a while. It really puts me off. But at least I know he still fancies me.

we didn't have penetrative sex for about a year as we were both so petrified of another pregnancy - but quite a lot of other activities IYSWIM, although even that got a bit infrequent.

things have been a lot more relaxed since the vasectomy - the surgeon is deffo on Dh's Christmas card list . still only about once a fortnight though i try to deliberately aim for once a week. and ds is 4.

If you can manage a morning to yourselves (dh should organise childcare, holiday etc to show him what a pain it is) and spend it in bed, I'd recmomend it. Sex at night with children in the house, even if they are asleep, is pants, much too tired and great telly - incredible how even the most tired episode of the Bill can look more attractive than having to heave your undercrackers off, but partners feel rubbish if they are worth less of your time than Sun HIll.

2-3 times a week. We would both like to do it more but DH works crazy hours (he is a chef) and often doesn't come home till midnight.

We have 2 DCs - a 3 year old and a 7 yr old.

More since TTC2. But before this, three times a month, not as often as would like, but both tired!

About once a month on average, but with alot of variability (in frequency).

Usually about once a week on average, but I have a way higher sex driver than DP and would like more often. He's never in the mood when I am, or too tired.
Since giving birth a few weeks ago, my sex drive has remained the same, and I feel faintly worried when DP makes it clear that according to him, six weeks is how long it takes for things to heal, so that's how long we will be waiting Would just love a cuddle anyway that wasn't all 'mumsey'... We sleep separately too and have done for almost a year because of his snoring, so there's no much intimacy in our house just now. I miss it.

Never since DD was born 9 months ago.

I am terrified of ever getting pregnant again. DH has given up begging for it, poor sod.

Looks like DH and I are about average then.

Not sure how fair it is though on partners if it is a every couple of months event. I hate to say it but if they arent getting any at home then i have had friends whos -git- lovely dh's have gone elsewhere.

Last night got me thinking about it all and I gave my Dh a great time as sometimes worried about how gorgeous and un-milkstained all the nurses/female junior doctoras are at his hospital.
Probably not politically correct to say this but it does worry me about how much lower my sex drive is than his.

I used to average about once every 3 months with ex H. I really wasn't bothered about sex at all. With new partner we average 2-3 times a week, which is about as often as I get to see him in a week! We have only been together just over a year though, so guess we're still in honeymoon period!

Hmmm, on average once every 1-2 weeks. We have 2 young kids (2 yrs and a 4 mth old baby).

we have five children....

we have had it enough!

about once a month on average, 3-4 times week? how on earth do either of you have the energy?!?!?

We have a 31/2 yr old who STILL isn't sleeping through, DH works 60+ hr weeks, I work p/t and am studying for an MA p/t.

But to be frank my sex drive has just plumeted, I had a traumatic birth and new baby experience and I don't think I've recovered. I used to have a great sex drive, adventurous, confident and frequent. Now I literally cringe at the thought.

Mind you i think its not all one way fault, DH still thinks that suddenly saying half way through the evening 'fancy going to bed' is enough foreplay.

How on earth do you get it through to your partner that you'd like a little wamr up and romancing?

I'm 6 months pregnant and my dp won't make love to me, i'm so horny it's awful! He just says my belly's full and yet says he still has a high sex drive which makes matters worse. I feel so unattractive because of it i'm so envious of all you ladies who are getting it whenever you want it!

i have to ask girlnextdoor; you've been with a man for last 8 years and you don't know how you feel about him? that's a long time.

right now DH and i have sex every couple of days. never more than 3 days in-between. use to be a lot more but we are living with my uncle and we can't have sex when he's home; very uncomfortable. we have no children but are brewing one. the main problem now is that at 25 weeks pregnant i feel exceptionally horny but so clumsy and awkward that sex has become a little laughable. for years we both work long hours that go late into the evening. we both love sex as soon as we wake up. plus those quickies in the afternoon, bent over the counter top, when there is a lull. man, i can't wait to get our own place.

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