Single Mum not intersted in dating single dads any

[Killerqueen777]

As the title goes single Mum to one and just not interested in dating a man with kids. I dont want the responsibility of another at the moment. I dont even want more of my own as i had a bad birth. Most of the men i know are single parents have children with different women who they dont even see. And people try and act like you're a hypocrite for not wanting to indulge chaos, impulsivity and neglience. And yes there are the exceptions of good dads who were in long term relationships that failed but they're not common round here

Fair enough. That makes sense. I often see women claiming all the single men are "single for a reason" and "must have something wrong with them" and think thats either not true, or its also true for us single women. I'm sure (some of) our exes would say so anyway!

@MyDucksAreHavingAParty
I agree with you.
@putitonthewrongway
My now husband's ex-wife discovered about 10 years into their marriage that she wanted to be in a relationship with a woman, and is now re-married to a woman.
My husband found himself single and on his own in his late 30s through no fault of his own. He and and his ex-wife are still amicable and I've met her on several occasions; she's lovely. We sent each other cards when we married again etc, we send birthday and Christmas cards etc.
All of this was in fact a "green flag" re his personality and conduct when we met.

39 year-old single men are not likely to be good in relationships, but if they're divorced and/or had children then they're successful at having relationships even though the whole relationship broke down and led to divorce?

The same is true for single women though.
I know/have known plenty of single women in their 30s, 40s and 50s and I don't think they can all be dismissed as "not good in relationships".
Relationships don't work out for lots of reasons and it isn't always anyone's fault.