How would you react to these emails?

[suspiciouswife]

Have name changed for this post.

Went to a party at the weekend a client of DH. A number of his colleagues were there. I don't know any of them very well but one girl was clearly talking about me and looked away quickly whenever I looked over.

I checked his phone last night. DH works very closely with a very glamorous and beautiful former model. In amongst lots of very normal professional emails there were various email exchanges between them which were not professional. They contain lots of smilies and winks (which is very unDH).

By way of example.

Girl - I feel really tipsy after that drink
DH- have some more
Girl - I really do feel tipsy. someone might take advantage
DH - Come and have another bottle. In here.

Girl - are you hungry yet. I want to go
DH - bit busy don't wait for me
Girl - of course I'm going to wait for you.

DH - Tea
Girl - no thanks
DH - Oh. That was a short conversation
Girl - got any gossip
DH - only that you came in looking very ruffled earlier covered in make up and dodgy stains.
Girl - I must be having an affair.

I am mad. Am I overreacting? To me this is crossing the line and goes beyond normal flirty behaviour.

You could always email this woman and tell her she has over stepped the mark and to sod off.

I thinkn quite a few folk are coloured by their own experience on this thread. But, that's what makes MN such a well-rounded place.

SW - sorry you are having a hard time. He's definitely got some proving to do.

kimi nice point but perhaps asking for trouble if he works with her. a quiet word at the next company do would be a better idea. something along the lines of "find your own" whilst wearing something truly fabulous should just about do it.

Yep, I would find a way to very quietly and coolly make sure she knows you have her sussed.

She should not be your main focus though, she made no commitment to you, he did.

Good luck to you.

Hi SW

It must have been really hard to have that discussion with him and I hope that things work out for you. One thing that I would add is that now you have had this in your head it will make you second guess lots of things that he says and does for quite a while. Plus once you've looked at e-mails and texts its hard to stop. I hope he now puts the required effort inot your relationship ie flirts with you instead etc!!

suspicious wife. It sounds like you've made progress.

Don't EVER feel you have to justify your relationship on here. I have been reading Msnet for a little while and its true that there are some real wild card responses to genuine requests for help and advice.

They mean spritied and negative and only doing it in the safe knowledge that they are anonymous and can get away with it. Just ignore it. (hard I know)

I can't spell today and have no syntax.

dont worry mrs tiddles - we wont judge

op - hope your doing ok today!

prettyfly1 - love your posts