Instagram

[Missmos89]

On Instagram if you type random letters into search such as “a” “b” can pages your friends follow come up that you have never clicked on?

I looked at my husbands and went mental as I seen three girls and he swears to me he’s never looked at their profile. Two I know for a fact his friends follow. They aren’t nude or anything, just influencer and other two are normal. I’ve got serious low self esteem and constantly seek reassurance from my husband of 10 years but he’s very depressed over my behaviour and was even crying saying it’s so sad I don’t trust him.

I am not ignoring anyone I am fully aware what it’s doing to my marriage I asked a question about Instagram in my post and that was it I didn’t once say I was being reasonable. I am fully aware and I am struggling. Makes me sick to think he’s searching or clicking on glamorous women’s instagrams. He used to be glued to his phone this is where my problems stem from

Just because it’s on the For You page it doesn’t mean he has seen it or searched for it. I just checked mine and some things I am interested in appear (like F1) some things I have zero interest in and have never searched appear. But all that is not really important - the important thing is that you need to realise your level of obsession is not normal. Please get help to deal with this it is clearly taking over.

do you use Instagram alot ? As in click profiles search etc and watch reels ?

You’re worried he is ‘checking out’ women online, but you need to be more worried he will leave you for being so controlling and jealous. Whether he has looked or hasn’t, your reaction is out of order and you are being abusive to him. Yes get some help, but sorry to say he needs to get out of this relationship, and it he was a friend or relative of mine, this is exactly what i’d be telling him to do.

My for you page has a lot of random stuff, means very little

Do u use it a lot though ?

@Missmos89 You’re asking the same questions over and over. None of this is important. His Instagram use isn’t the issue.

His home feed sounds completely normal but your behaviour isn’t.

How can I be sure ? He knows from day 1 I don’t like that kind of thing so that’s why I’m making sure he’s not making me out to be an idiot

Hes probably looking at women all the time in the street.

Nice

Just checked my insta. Put a in and then b. Both times i got a bunch of suggestions for businesses/people I’ve never heard of or searched for that are followed by the people (all 10 of them) that I follow .

That’s because u only follow 10 people though

You can’t be sure.

OP you may relate to the criteria for 'relationship OCD', if so this is something you can get professional help with.

I most definitely do I’ve looked this up already

He’s not making you look like an idiot. You are.

I've just done it on mine. And i'm afraid it does bring up the accounts that I either follow or don't follow but have looked up recently.

Exactly ! Thanks for confirming

Is there anyone on here that uses Instagram alot but when they type in “a” b etc into search it shows people you don’t follow but who your friends follow ( people u haven’t clicked on their profile )

Can you do the search thing for me

Generally no it only brings up people.I have searched.

There's no way to know though the only person who knows if he's done it is him. He's hardly going to admit it.So there's no way to know.

He’s definitely lying to me then

I already did this and told you that it brings up accounts I’ve never looked at before but which are followed by my friends. It even lists which friends already follow them next to the account name. I use instagram most days and post a couple of times per week. I follow a few hundred accounts and have a few hundred followers.

Any wonder. Leave the man alone.

Thank you for your input ! I think his explaination of not searching or clicking is definitely related to what came up. Thank you