Has anyone agreed to a partner's fantasy of sex with another man?

[Ladyb50]

Has anyone on here had their husband/bf ask them to have sex with another man as it's their fantasy? My partner is desperate to watch me with another man and asks if we can go to a sex club, go dogging or join a swingers site. Have you gone through with it? Did it ruin your relationship? And did you just do it for your partner? I'm thinking if i did this it could ruin our relationship and also what would he be asking me ti do next!

I agree with others too it’s a journey to Gayland,

Despite everyone’s messages here I think these kinds of fantasies are actually way more common than anyone will admit. Most people have fantasies outside of vanilla with their spouse. However it’s what you do with those fantasies that matter. If they stay in your head and add some kink, that’s not a problem, using it for chat etc - it’s when pressure is exerted to try it when the other person doesn’t want to.

The thing is I suspect even if you refuse something is amiss here.

You used husband and boyfriend interchangeably and you know they are not the same thing.

If it's this is a boyfriend, I would be rid of him.

What is DVP?

I am the he and I was talking about my wife's fantasy - that she would like to try in real life. She loves me (and I love her)

Double Vaginal Penetration. (You did ask!)

I did.

Are you going to do it?

We're thinking. There is a risk but if she wants to try I'd likely agree.

She'd definitely like to give it a go. We have a young child which gets in the way of any personal time. (We grabbed a half day in a hotel yesterday - the first half day in 5 years!!!!!)
I'd give it a go. My business partner did it when he was young.

I recently listened to a podcast called “swingers” please listen to it! It was truly horrifying. A woman in the same position as u in the beginning and the impact it ended up having on her life. I truly don’t think I was prepared for half the things I heard. Please do not do this for him

No one should be coerced into doing it.
Ruth's husband was a lowlife.

If you want your penis to touch another penis then just own it. No need for vagina involvement.
Are you sure your wife isn't suggesting this because she knows what you really want.

Invite your business partner as he knows how to get the angels right.
How did that conversation start.
'Did you send that invoice, Bob. And I was just wondering. Have you ever put your penis into a vagina whilst there was already another man's penis already there. And can you cover Monday meet with supplier. Thanks'

DVP? You know that will hurt and could cause damage? You want to look down at the genitals of your wife, who you presumably are supposed to love, who gave you a child, and stuff your penis in there and another penis at the same time?? Hurt her, use her as a receptacle for as many penises as possible?
Where is the tenderness, the care, the love for the body of the woman you married?
I can understand fantasises of all sorts. Actually wanting to do this to a woman, any woman IRL is so depressing to read.

I'd own it if it was the case.
Women like girth and that's what DVP would give + the eroticism of having 2.

It's absolutely her idea! She is 100% the instigator.
Might not work in reality...

Not sure any angels would be interested in helping out with this!
Lad talk...

Absolutely.

You don’t want to do this, so tell him no and not to raise it again.

If he wanted a threesome with another man, I'd give it fair consideration (although at least superficially I don't get the appeal and suspect it may cause issues down the road). But if he wants to convince ME to have sex with someone else while he watches and does not participate ... no way, full stop. I'm not an inanimate object, nor someone else's property. I'd also suspect that too much porn might've addled his brain.

Exactly what happened to me….and he had another woman all along, he pestered me day and night to do it, wanted me to have lesbian lovers too…honestly it’s a terrible idea unless 100 you both want it.