Why do many of y’all refer to your spouse as best friends ? Your husband or your wife is the one person that can betray you the most, poison you, even kill you.
but besides that, when you are with your spouse, you sort of have to perform and be at least close to perfect. You have to stay fit to keep them attracted to you, have to be good in bed or otherwise they will mock you, if you are a man you gotta have the biggest member possible and as a woman you gotta have the best looking behind possible. You have to do grand gestures wether it’s gifts, trips, dates or else.
and let’s also talk about bad times. If you get severely ill and need to be hospitalised and cared for. Even worst, if you have cancer. Chances are they gonna dump you at the worst possible time. It’s not guaranteed that they will have your back. Heck, when women get pregnant the men often loses attraction even if the men doesn’t dump her right away or cheat on her (which he will). And if a man gets severely ill and need to be hospitalised, the woman will dump him.
overhaul, this whole love thing is a fairytale fantasy. That doesn’t exist in marriage. It only exist in family and friends.
when you are with your friends, you can just let loose and be your flawed self and you won’t get judged for it. When you are with your actual best friend you can confide in them and be vulnerable and you won’t get judged.
why do many refer to their spouses as best friends ? They can’t be. Spouses can stab you in the back. Specially now in 2026