Glam & Fab Part 6 - The Summer of Discontent

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Hope you all find your way onto this new one !

Ginny i think after everything you have been trough going away on your own will be a walk in the park and maybe just what you need. You will definately have a good time without worrying about him as will the dc's and it may just give you the confidence to know you will be ok on your own.

Dior i agree with others and would have done the same too , maybe you just feel a little less in control but that reaction is perfectly justified imo.

McD shame he seems to be letting you down you sound to be run ragged but am sure dd's parents eve will put a smile on your face and you can be proud to know that's down to you Good news about xmas!

PC fingers crossed he gets there this time even turning up never mind packing bag is an achievement is it not

Tannee hope you get to have some good quality time with him this weekend think that maybe what you need to get things back on track (hopeful emocion)

HW send some of that sunshine over here And get yourself out h and the dc's will cope without you and if not it's a gentle reminder of how much they need you

Well dp just rang to say his swanky hotel thinkg finished but he needs to go and see someone about another job so won't be home until late Didn't really need that today mind now working overtime (i bloody hate this) I suppose i will be relieved if it turns out he stayed on at free bar that doesn't bode well does it!

Thanks Tannee. I know I could do it, just didn't want to have to iyswim. He's just been so vile and obnoxious on the phone, making out that its all me making a fuss about nothing. I hate him. I really do.
I can't believe he's so hurtful and mean, and he's not even drunk now, so maybe thats what he's really like and the nice version of him is the front.

ginny, where are you flying from, what time/day etc? FB me the details and if I can help out I'd be happy to.

I'm taking the initiative and I'm goin to organise a single parent new year break somewhere around the south east.

After 2 years of seeing in the new year on my own I am determined it will not happen again this year!

xmas, not sure about yet but hoping to be at my house (wherever that might be!) with the fam coming to me. much prefer it that way!

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Thanks PC. We're only flying from Gatwick which is half an hour from me so I'm just being a big baby about it all ! Thanks so much for the offer though!!
(Can we gatecrash your single parents NY party - I hate new year's eve on my own, its a bummer!)

ginny, it'd be fabulous if you came at NY.

check out www.singlewithkids.co.uk/forum it's a great place for single parent support and there's even some blokes LOL.

well, apparently my new phone is going to be delivered today whoo hoo.

we're heading off around lunchtime, wish the forecast was better

was still working at 10pm last night to finish up but it'll be worth it i hope.

already heard from H so am allowing myself to relax a bit about his turning up!

PC, have a great time at the festival! Hope H gets there ok, and doesn't injure himself again!!

Lily, yes I suppose it won't go away that quickly, although H would probably like it to. I know that when my H had a drunken mistake (a v. long time ago, before we were engaged or anything), I could never hear the name again without a shudder. Did you find out exactly where H went? If it was the free bar, then really he should just say that...! but too scared to?

Ginnny, sounds like your P is angry, angry, angry - he is probably more angry at himself than at you, although he may not realise it. Don't take what he says to heart, he doesn't mean it deep down. You know in yourself you've done what's best for you and your family, so keep strong.

Dior, I hope you're feeling better today? Is it your body readjusting to a lower dosage?

MacD, stay strong... Well done on Xmas. It's good to have a plan, something to look forward to.

I feel much better this week. I am taking control of my destiny, or trying to. I've got a list of things to achieve, and am slowly working through them to arrange things. Trying to be civil with H, trying to remind him of the lovely, sexy me he fell for in the first place, not the slightly worn down and bedraggled Mummy me... and it's making me feel better too.

PC have lovely time

UC glad your feeling upbeat this week!

Well he did go to see someone about a job luckily i managed to deal with my own feelings on here so he none the wiser thanks!
Dilemma now it includes every other Saturday but the job he wants to do and he thinks better long term prospects not sure how we going to tell ds his footy will have to stop though It also a longer commute he in a quandry but it may also be a pay rise when i due back to work so if figures add up i might not have to go back
A lot to think about anyway!
Right off to get sorted and then to hairdressers

Hi Lily, glad it did turn out to be a job rather than anything else and bloody well done you for venting here rather than at him.

I'm so incapable of doing that, I always end up going off and making things worse.

Job prospect sounds like a mixed blessing tbh. Extra money and better career progression are always good. Can you consider it for a set period and see how it works out?

Could ds switch footy to a Sunday instead?

Twiddling thumbs here, H said he'd leave about 10ish so won't really properly relax until I hear he's on the road.

Hate this anxious-ness...........

Hopefully he throwing bag in the car as we speak

Yeah i think he is going to go for it just the Saturdays putting him off but it's in a bank and so prob more opprtunity to do his mortgage stuff too which he wants to keep doing!
Ds plays on Sun it's his season ticket to ManC that will go by the by as will dps oh well Unless i ask my dad to take ds can just see his face

arg! missing matches will not go down well!

hopefully dp's saturday working won't clash too often then your dad can fill the gap.

i am sitting on my hands trying not to text/call to say "have you left yet?"

the hall is full of bags and bedding and i'm about to make a picnic for the journey.

must stay busy and not let on how anxious i am that he hasn't been in touch yet!

okay so i've called and texted based on the last time when he fell back asleep!

no reply to either.

now feeling very anxious.

panic over. on his way.........

phew have lovely time

phew indeed!

3g phone delivered as well. would it be okay to send h and dd to festival so i can stay home and play with it?

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Paddlechick have a great time...weather is looking a bit iffy

Macdoodle - just reading about your day exhausted me. I think the problem for you and ginny is that you are competing with alcohol and unless your chaps want to give it up they are just going to continue to act like tossers - very hard because you know underneath there is a nice person but thats not who you get to deal with every day.

I would be the same about flying/holidaying without DH as I worry about everything which is out of our ordinary every day schedule but do you know what I think I would bite the bullet and go for it alone if I needed to. Really how likely are you to end up on the wrong plane it just wouldnt happen and imagine how fab you would feel about yourself when you got there

LL I am the same as you - I look in the mirror and see I look better, starting to get some muscle tone on my abs but ive only lost 1lb over about a month Ive been so good about what im eating am exercising min 30 minutes a day sometimes over an hour. So I thought about it would I rather lose weight but still look flabby and shite or not lose weight and look good. The scales have now been retired...Hey I have a waist again bugger the weight!! Having said that if you waved a cake in front of me I would probably chew your arm off to get to it, I am soooo missing doughy food and sweet things

Hello everyone else...not mentioning names as I know I will leave someone out as this is a flying visit - I have a ton of stuff to do today.

WW - yes I can't be bothered with the scales anymore. Not dieting as in the past I have been able to get away with exercising a few times a week. I suppose eventually I might have to diet, but like you I hate the craving for carbs.

Dior - weightloss can vary a lot and you are still losing so don't despair. Very sad to hear your ds is being bullied. I don't blame you for saying something to that boy. It's horrible when you feel powerless to prevent your child being hurt.

Had my work leaving do yesterday. It was lovely. I got quite emotional though. They got me Next Vouchers as I need clothes for my new job and I got some perfume and chocs

Going to Brighton tomorrow for dh's bday. Ds being looked after by his Nana.

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PC, hope H finally turned up and you have finally got off (to the festival, I mean )!

Fellow Would Be Weightlosers, I haven't got any scales - I left them behind when I moved house and prefer to go by how my clothes feel and look, and measurements. Drove today - sorry - as I have to pick up a Tesco shop on the way home, but hope to do lots of walking over the weekend. I think the well-dressing will be on, so we shall go look at those. Hope Derbyshire is reasonably dry! Can't hope as much for the alcoholic outlaws, if they come - and they usually do . At least it won't be an all-nighter as we return to Glos on Saturday night.

The Host Family company want to foist two 15/16 year old germans on me on half board - when I specifically said I would only do B&B - and I won't even be in London some of that week. How mad is that? And they haven't even inspected me yet! I don't particularly want to be in loco parentis to kids that young, or leave DD in charge. The other company who DID inspect me yesterday seem more organised - so I expect rather more sensible bookings from them.

Looking forward to getting some money in...

Tannee - also considering renting a room to students. What company are you using?

The one that seemed most enthusiastic, but a bit chaotic, was Homestay International, tel 0207 323 5244. The more organised one was UKGuests.com operating from Bow. They provided a details application form and check insurance etc. One I've yet to return the form to, is London-hosts.co.uk

There are some that operate only in particular parts of London - so it's worth trawling through the internet on Google - which is how I found these - to see if there are any near you. The ones I've tried seem to operate London-wide.

Thanks Tannee

Hi everyone.
Thanks PC - I'll check out that website. Hope you have a fantastic trip
I'm a very proud mummy today. Ds1 got his 5m badge for swimming, which doesn't sound much but he isn't that confident in the water and he's so happy that he got to go up in assembly and get his badge. He did his sponsored walk today too and did 16 laps, all little things but it means a lot to him as he's very shy and lacking in confidence.
And I went to see ds2's first school play - he was gorgeous in it and I cried .
Just about to take them to Pizza Hut to celebrate - they've been fantastic throughout all my mood swings this past few weeks and I don't know where I'd be without them.
As for twat face haven't heard a peep from him, which is great, long may it last!!!

I am so proud of my DD1 - went to parents eve by myself - she won't be 7 till sept but reads at age 7.5, spells at age 7, and is well above average at maths (ave 90-100, she scored 110)
Teacher said they are aware of family problems (her announcing to class about her half sister would have done it)....but although she has been a little more sensitive than usual, she is bright, popular (a leader), polite and helpful, and she feels she will be something special
I could have cried thought my heart would burst - after all she has seen the last 2 years including mummy losing the plot, mummy and daddy throwing things (yes indeed at each other), and her beloved daddy moving out...she has come out shining ...I feel blessed