Should I leave an abusive partner or hope he will change?

[40isntsobad]

So here goes - I’ve wrote on here a few times over the last few years - please don’t come at me 😢

so I’ve been with my partner for a very long time - we have 2 children together - we have seperated once a few years ago - he was meeting other women (not the 1st time) also he drinks a lot and is verbally abusive.

I forgave him as my youngest was so young I thought I couldn’t do it alone - fast forward 4 years - the abuse was getting horrendous - night after night of shouting at me - calling me names - taking the mick out of everything and everyone I like. On the flip side he provides for us and would give me anything I want - we do from the outside live a very comfortable life

i happen to bump into an old flame one day - we were best of friends when we were young but blew the chance of a relationship (my doing)
we got talking and before we knew it this turned into a daily thing ( we’ve never met in person again) I adore him - he is everything I don’t have, we FaceTime etc and I am developing feelings for him again!
one night my partners abuse got out of hand - I told him to leave - he refused but cried for 5 days - telling me he wil change - he will prove he can be a better person! Things have got better over the last month - but his old habits are slowly slipping back

do I continue this path with my current partner - or dare to risk everything for someone who could actualy love me? My heart tells me to go but my head stil believes maybe one day he wil change!

Leave him. He’s getting worse. It’s already unforgivable.

Leave your abusive partner OP but for god’s sake don’t go jumping into another relationship. Take some time, be by yourself, have some counselling to work out why you tolerated abuse for so long and give your kids a fresh start without a new partner being on the scene immediately.

I left an abusive partner, I cried for weeks. I could only think of the good times and minimised the bad. I came out of the fug of denial and I can clearly see it was the best thing I ever did, it makes me shudder to think where I’d be now if I’d stayed. Think of future you, imagine her thanking you for leaving.

This exactly.
I left 11 years ago , my main reason for leaving was that I did not want my children to think this is the way it’s supposed to be .
It was a miserable house with lots of fighting, not physical, not the point , still miserable.
He was a controlling fuck .
We had a fabulous home , I literally planned my get away secretly, it was bricks & mortar at the end of the day .
I rented a house with sweet FA inside in it , but we were happy as the days were long ☺️.
We now have our own home , I’ve never looked back OP , nearly will you .
Leave while your children are nice & young .
Best wishes to you x

PS , you’d be a very foolish woman to get involved with someone else right now .