is it ever acceptable to call your child a failure and disappointment?

[TheArmadillo]

talking teen/adult not tiny one.

Under what circumstances would/could it be considered acceptable?

SHould it ever be?

Armadillo - keep fighting the compulsion to phone your mum - that is a part of the dependent behaviour that she has instilled in you that allows her to think "see, she can't cope without me". She doesn't need to know, you have no need to tell her, unless you wish to provoke the confrontation that you seemed to dread.

Stay strong - big hugs

Your the sane one Amadillo...!!! Feel like the sane person in the madhouse...or are you the insane one in a sane house? Used to wonder myself till I got out! Your not crazy...your mother is playing with your reality, your experience of life and with her being your mother you will automatically trust her, afterall, why would she fib to you? She does because she 'needs' you...she will do anything to keep you needing her, including telling you that your thoughts and feelings are wrong. Don't believe it! We know here that your feelings are SPOT ON

Am still reading thru these and taking them in.

Thank you very much for all your messages. Had talk to dp tonight about stuff.

I will read thru the stately homes thread in the next couple of days.

You have no idea how much this all means to me.

no that is what i hear every day of my life and it's not nice.

Glad your okay It may take more than a couple of days to read thru stately homes thread x 3 of them Don't feel you have to read thru before posting...just join in where we are

Nappyaddict, seen you round MN I remember you mentioning on a thread that your mum does not correct your son if he calls her mum? And you still live at home and can't afford/able to move away? Never felt it my place to mention the stately homes thread to you....but as your on this thread...and you say your mum calls you a failure and disappointment ...just thought I would mention it...