Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

DH and I have find my friends on our iPhones. I added him initially because the job I was doing at the time involved going to some quite remote places to meet people I didn’t know. I thought at least then if I went missing he might be able to find me. DH then added me. I’m not sure for what purpose really, maybe as a curtesy because he could see me. But to answer the question I don’t actually track him and I find it unlikely that he’s looking where I am. We are both too busy for that. But I do think it’s good to have, should there be some kind of emergency.

Omg I had no idea my daughters would be listed there! Thank you so much!

DP and I have each other on find my iPhone but we don’t “track” each other. I’ve used it once when he was in an obscure bar that I couldn’t find and he’s used it once when I lost my phone (it was in my car!) but hidden far too well.
there’s no trust issues and we don’t sit and watch each others movements on it

No absolutely not

And this anecdote, of course, demonstrates that you are only tracking a phone..... not a person. So if someone's phone is lost or stolen, you still don't know where they are!

Exactly! If DH thought I would track his arrival home so that his dinner was on the table when he walked in, I’d think it was the 1950’s!

We enable location shari8ng on Google Maps. My husband really likes that i can look up his location if he's on a long solo bike ride, in case of accidents.

We share our locations with each other, it's handy to know where each other is without having to text or ring eg one person went to Sainsbury's, are they still there if so I can call and ask them to get something, otherwise I'll let them walk home. Or are they still at the park if so I'll meet them on the way back. Loads of reasons really none of them seem suspicious to me but I can see that some people wouldn't like it. Tbh I find random calls more intrusive than location sharing, but I know that's not a universal rule

No way. We dont track our teens either. Completely bonkers.

Absolutely not. I also don't track my teen. That way lies madnes

Nope. Never

I’ll use find my when I’m waiting for my other half to pick me up outside work. Rather than stand in the rain. He had to pull in and I need to be ready to jump in so we don’t hold up traffic. I might check if I haven’t heard from him and he’s headed out just to check he’s got there ok.

My colleague on the other hand tracks her husband all day on his day off on life360 and I find it a bit odd. ‘Oh he’s at B&Q , he must be buying that paint….why is he at x place?’

A man I know’s wife tracks him. He just switches his phone off when he’s playing away.

I'm really hungry and want to eat.

I have to admit I haven't had the most healthiest relationships so this could be tarnishing my feelings on it but it does make me feel rather uncomfortable - tracking or being tracked! I actually don't want someone knowing my every move even something as mundane as popping to the shops. Funnily enough, I'd probably say when I get home anyway.. it's not a secret but I don't like the idea of someone knowing where I am at all times whoever it is. Although I do understand the safety in this so where I might feel like I've lost a sense of "freedom", it can give others a sense of security. I suppose it comes down to your relationship and lifestyle.

The whole family have ‘find my’ on our phones. Nobody ‘tracks’ each other in a spying/ distrustful way. It is just super helpful to know how close my husband is to home on his drive back from the airport, if the kids school bus has left yet etc etc.
I reckon if you are worried about trusting someone or them tracking your phone then you already have issues, the phone is just more proof.

Well eat then. You don’t need a phone tracker for that.

We have location sharing on for each of us. It's just handy. We can turn if off if we want, at any stage.

But it means if dd is waiting for a lift and wondering where we are...she can check on Google maps instead of texting/calling when we are still in work or driving.

It means if I go for a walk in the woods on my own..they know where I am.

If dh is away at an event...I can see when he's left or he's still there instead of worrying about why he is so late.

If dh has made dinner...he can see if to keep mine warm if I'm on my way home or to put it in the fridge if I'm still at work. Without having to call.

Like I said, if we ever wanted to, we could turn it off.

I was trying to work out why it's so much easier to look to see if dh's phone has left work yet than to get him to tell me when he'll be home. (Which I want to know about 50% of the time for childcare or dinner, rest of the time I don't care). It seems quicker and less intrusive to just look it up, rather than expecting a text (especially if he's driving, hands free is a bit beyond him). I suspect some ND on both sides - him being too scatty to stick to a time, me liking to feel in control of knowing where everyone is!
Mostly, he just wants me to be able to find his keys and phone for him, when he's mislaid them again

No. It’s controlling and stalkerish. There is absolutely no need for anyone to need to know where another person is 24/7. This is the same fpr the kids. People who track their kids have issues and are bringing their kids up to have issues imo.

We both share our location, but we don't "track" each other. I mainly look to see how far he's got on the way back from his mum's, or where he is when we're meeting up after something we're doing separately.

We eat together if we can (which might also be considered weird, controlling, boring and reminiscent of the 1950s). I don't need a phone tracker. We were married pretty successfully before we had one. Once a week if he's not home I look at Find my to see if he's left work yet. It's just useful, like phones generally. I'm not suggesting you should do that Parker231 but I think the level of disapproval on this thread for doing that is wild.

Glad to see most of the responses are against it too as I find it really ridiculous. I would personally be insulted if my husband suggested tracking me, he can just call and ask. It’s a big sign of insecurity for me and I think if they were cheating they’d be smart enough to either turn off their location or have a second phone to use while they leave the other somewhere else lol

Thank you. I was starting to wonder if I was weird/bonkers/controlling and, of course, setting my DC up for a terrible future. I hope not🤞

Yeah, we share location.

i don’t sit all day with a bag of popcorn and see where his phone is, and neither does he. So it’s far from stalking.

i use it mainly if I want to call him but I’m not sure if he’s out on a job or in the office, or if there’s been an traffic accident I’ll see if he’s in that area, just to put my mind at ease.
i don’t think he looks at mine unless I’m out walking the dog in the dark and I’m longer than usual.

i can’t see how it could be seen as controlling (at least, in our relationship anyway) as it absolutely doesn’t change where i go or what I do, and it doesn’t him either.