Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

We track each other. It’s useful when we are meeting up somewhere and I also use it to see when to put the dinner on which is when he is at London Bridge. My DH is not a spy, so I don’t see the problem tracking him.

Outside FlightRadar24, no I don’t track my husband unless he shares Waze with me.

Talk to me about those many situations?

We go abroad, theme parks are definitely open at those times! Efteling at Christmas time is magical. We like to go around Europe visiting theme parks. Sometimes we do more than one in a trip! Plus my kids are nursery/aged and flexi-schooled so we can take long weekends to go away places a lot. February is half-term here so we get a week off too.

But it doesn’t really matter, we find it useful for our lifestyle, you don’t, that’s all there is to it. No stress.

No - I can’t think of any circumstances DH and I need to know each other’s whereabouts through a tracking app. DS and DD would have never agreed to be tracked and nor do I want to.

“But apparently that’s not enough.”
not enough what? And for who?

we don’t have any tracking on anything. Fine by all of us. I find mostly with the people in js it’s used by insecure women who have good reason not to trust their partners - god knows why they stay with them.

you always hear “oh I just use it to know when they’ve left work to put the dinner on” and I find it really just not truthful tbh.

jt would be the end for me I would never be tracked or track anyone
it’s an alien concept to me

BUT if all parties are happy why not each to there own
but I find it irritating when other people push there view on you like your friends are

best answer to say to them we don’t track each other other as we’re secure enough to not think each other is shagging someone else

There is nothing covert about our family use of Find my phone. I used it today to see if DD was still at home or had been collected by her brother to go surfing on my way home. DH is away and looked at my location before calling so he wouldn't interrupt me if I was out. DD looked at my location as I was cycling home last night to see if I was on my way as if I was she would stay awake to say goodnight but if I wasn't, she would go to bed. It's just very convenient. If nobody in our family cycled I admit I would use it much less. It stops me bothering DD if she is out for the day as I can see she's got safely to her destination. It doesn't feel weird or controlling.

Absolutely not. Wouldn’t dream of tracking anyone.

If you didn’t trust your DH, how would tracking them help you? The DH could just switch it off or leave it somewhere while he has his affair. So there is no logic to saying it’s used by women who don’t trust their husbands because it doesn’t solve that problem.

I wouldn't track anyone, least of all a grown man.

Also i travel overseas a lot, often to interesting places so its fun for my kids to see where i am
in these threads 50% have very strong views about sharing location and 50% couldnt care.
neither view is wrong. As long as no one is unknowingly being tracked

No it’s weird, controlling, and deeply boring. He’s a human being, he’s allowed privacy.

I have my husband's location, but it's because he rides a motorbike to work (it's a newish thing) and I've lost count of how many times I've asked for a quick message, anything to let me know he's arrived safely, he forgets. So it's for my peace of mind! So I generally only check on a morning (even tho I'm getting less concerned the more he gets experience and often forget!) and if he's running late and I worry he's had an accident!

We both have find my friend on iPhone. Both can use whenever but never really do. Only time I do is to see what train he’s on for whether he’ll be able to collect the kids on his way home. Total trust, just sometimes useful.

Yes, I guess I do. I have lot's of people on Life 360 and he is one of them. I have elderly relatives, colleagues on home visits, friends running late, the cars. It's nothing to do with trust, it's to do with safety and convenience. I can assure you I don't sit around tracking them unless one of them has gone missing.

Well that automatically becomes ‘the sign’ of cheating doesn’t it?
”he was here and then here and then he switched the tracking off and back on again 2 hours later. I asked him about it and he said he must have been in an area with no signal. I’m suspicious and don’t believe him.”

We don't, and I personally would hate it, but I can see the utility for long term partners and families. What troubles me is that it's apparently very common in dating relationships among young people (teens/young adults) which I think removes a healthy boundary in that stage.

Like lots of other people we are on one another’s find my iPhone, very handy for when I lose my phone in the house. From a piece of mind side it’s nice as he loves a long bike ride down country lanes & I like to know he’s still on the move when I think of it & not had an accident. Similarly if I take my paddle board out he would probably have a glance to check I hadn’t gone too far downstream (too much “saving lives at sea” on the telly). We wouldn’t check it religiously though.

Yes we as a family do. Nothing at all to do with a lack of trust and I find it odd to think that’s the conclusion people automatically jump to. Absolutely loads of our friends have it too.

I don't think it's weird and controlling if both parties consent to it and are happy to share their location. Me and my partner do it. I hate driving and have no sense of direction, useless with technology, working Google's maps etc. When I'm driving and traffic is redirected due to an accident or something I ring my husband and he directs me or of I'm stuck in traffic on the way to work he can see what the problem is (accident, burst pipe etc) and use his phone to tell me how long Google is saying my journey to work now will take etc. I have a real fear of getting lost. It is a convenience thing and a security thing. I understand why people don't want too but I also understand why it's handy for some.

Absolutely supportive of you not wishing to use any sort of tracking app but don't you guys reveal where you are going when you go out? We all know pretty much where we all are. I guess you are sort of duty bound to know where your children are up to a point and it would be weird if DH left without mentioning where he was going, partly because we often juggle childcare. Even if we didn't have kids I doubt he'd go somewhere without saying where he was going. I haven't requested this, he just does, along the lines of 'off to the tip, see you later' to which I might reply 'I'm out for lunch so I'll see you sometime this afternoon'.

We have one another on find my iPhone. Really handy for some situations but can’t tell you the last time I looked to see where he was. He’s never mentioned he tracks me but he’d prob be bored (oh she’s home/ at work/on the school run 😂) Depends on the relationship. Can see how it can be very controlling but for us it’s handy the 4 times a year it’s looked at

Nope, absolutely batshit behaviour if you ask me.

If I need to know where DP is, I'll ask her. And I'd take a very dim view if she wanted to track me.

If your friends cant trust their partners to that extent @Lana20 , what on earth are they doing with them?

No, I think its bizarre to track anyone, adult or child. We never have.