Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

Totally agree. And all of these "I only do it in order to cook dinner" posts are weird. We all managed to cook dinner and put it on the table at an agreed time before phone stalking tracking. And people also could call if they were running late. Not sure why people's fingers in 2026 have fallen off that they can't text or call if they are running late.

Personally I find it bizarre that people seem to do this. But maybe if tracking had been around, or I’d been aware of it, or others doing it when DS was first independent, it would have been something we’d have set up as a family, and it wouldn’t seem so odd.

I did have a WTF moment the other day when I was visiting someone in a different town and messaging DH at the station, he asked me if I’d enjoyed my meal at the Whatever Lounge. Turned out the Applepay from our joint account had flashed up on his phone and he was teasing me.

I check Find My occasionally when my husband is commuting - I don’t want to call and distract him from the road when it’s easy to check and he doesn’t mind that I do. When we’re out and about my SEN child can be a handful so we can’t always answer the phone when we get separated. Find My is useful then.

I don’t understand the resistance to using it for convenience. We don’t track each other’s whereabouts constantly, it’s as needed.

We also managed to arrange to meet friends at a certain time and place and then go there at the appointed time - no mobiles to send updates on or changes of venue. I bet you use a mobile though?
I'm all for using tech to make family life easier.

We share locations using Google. Pretty much the only time I use it is to help with timing dinner, though if he’s traveling for work it’s nice sometime to just see where he is, especially when he’s coming home.

I’ve never “checked up on him” in the sense of looking to see if he’s where he said he’d be. And I don’t think you’re “crazy” not to have him on a tracking app (in fact, I think the idea of thinking it crazy is a bit crazy).

No I don’t, I think it’s weird and controlling to track an adult.
I do track my DDs for safety, but I will stop when they are adults

Of course I use a mobile - I have two, one for work and my own one. Neither have a tracking app on them - you are allowed to own a mobile and not have a tracking app on the handset - in case you didn't know.

I don't recall the last time I had to send anyone a message about being late, because I do my best to be on time. Which I think most people do, we don't need to be tracked, we just meet our commitments. You seem quite defensive.

I do!

1. so I know how long I’ve got until the mess I’ve left out needs putting away
2. how long I’ve got to eat my treat food in secret

Before we had tracking we used to eat later so he’d almost always be home (though there were still occasions when traffic added an hour to the normal commute). But eating later is not great for our sleep.

This just isn’t something we’d have been able to do before tracking apps. So of course we’d have managed. It just wouldn’t have been as nice or convenient.

I can, but we set it up after he collapsed twice when out running and I wanted to be able to see if he was still moving when he was on his runs. I rarely use it at other times.

Calling or texting are fairly fundamental functions of a mobile phone. No need to track if someone can just send/call.

God no. How suffocating

We have find my iPhone set up as part of the family sharing thing so he can see where I am too (I can also see where my brother in laws iPad is as he shares our family sharing with us too). I’ll usually look where he is on a Thursday when he’s driving home from working away so I can work out whether I need to get the kids or whether he’ll be home in time to get them but that’s it. I know people will say to phone or text him instead but he’s driving so i can’t text him (or he can’t reply) and I’d rather not distract him by phoning him whilst he’s driving and it literally takes me seconds to look where he is on the motorway and work out whether he’ll be home to get the kids before I finish work or not.

This is the only context in which it's appropriate!

I track my mum. Because she's elderly and prone to wandering. I track my 11 year old daughter because she's always off to someone's house and i worry about her getting there / back. I don't track my dh. I roughly know when he's due back if I'm ever not with him and we've managed without needing to know specifics. I know people who have find my phone etc and whilst they all say they only use it for checking when to put the dinner, they don't. That's not to say everyone who says they do is lying, just that the couple of women I know, do use it to track a bit more than they let on to the dh's. I also think if I could see my dh's whereabouts I'd be the type that would look at it often and start wondering why he was at x, a mere 300 yards from where he's supposed to be. And that way, madness lies.

I wouldn't dream of tracking my DH, and he wouldn't dream of tracking me. Never tracked any of our now grown-up DC, either. I think it's a very odd thing to do and it's never occurred to me to do it. Can you even track someone on an Android phone? I don't actually know.

Actually, thinking about it, I'd be really annoyed if I thought someone was checking up on where I was; I really wouldn't like that at all.

You clearly have no idea then. And people don’t need to prove to you whether they trust their partner or not. We use it for convenience only. Nothing more scandalous than that.

We are all on Life360 together. We all check to see where everyone is all the time. Not tracking per se, but if I get in and no one is home, rather than ask on our group chat where everyone is and wait for replies, I just take a look. The teens and GH does the same.

I also check late afternoon/ early evening to see when DH leaves the office. He is notorious for telling me he is “leaving now” but then getting distracted by an email coming in etc. By checking I know when to get the dinner on.

Em, you're the one who questioned whether people's fingers falling off if they couldn't text and said other people were "weird".
People defend when others attack!
I still don't see the logic in using one aspect of modern tech for convenience and not another.

Texting or calling while driving is dangerous. But also, neither of us are likely to realise we need to update the cook in the middle of a drive home. Easier for the person who is wondering about timing to keep an eye on it as they need to make decisions about cooking.

So how do I ask my husband where he is? He doesn’t answer his phone when he’s driving. He picks me up outside my office as he drives from his office across town. He basically pulls up and I jump in and we set off to ensure he’s not blocking the road. If he had to pull in and then call me he’d be sitting on a double yellow line! I can see when he’s at the junction and go outside. I’m not standing in the rain this way.

He tracks me when I’m on my way home if I have been drinking to make sure I get to the train as once I called him and was making no sense. It was an emotional leaving do with bottles of Prosecco and shots…he was worried I’d end up on the wrong train etc.

DH has Find My enabled on his phone only because he goes for long, early morning bike rides in the summer, around very rural lanes, and if he had an accident it’d be nearly impossible to describe where he was. It happened a few years ago, and he was lying there in agony for ages until I eventually tracked him down.

otherwise I never look at it.

I didn't attack anyone. Not remotely. You can feel how you want to feel - I just manage to use modern tech not to track other people. You do you and I'll do me.

Oh yes, because I definitely posted that you need to text and call when driving! You're making yourself look silly now. No need to make out that cooking is an Olympic sport - you'll know in the morning what the plans are for the evening and if someone is a competent driver they can pull over to update you if things change. If they don't know to pull over then they shouldn't have a licence.

No, although sometimes I think it would be useful as he is one of those people who goes out for a loaf of bread and comes home 3 hours later with bread, milk, 10 boxes of ice lollies and a basket ball hoop. If he's out near mealtimes I will get him to ring me when he is less than half an hour away from home so I know when to put the dinner on.