Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

Making the request how? I’m busy with the kids and often don’t hear my phone either. I might be getting them to sleep or won’t see a text. It’s far simpler for me to have a quick check to see where he is and sort it myself.

It’s not always the case but some weeks my husband often doesn’t get home until 9pm
and then goes to bed about 10, so for him if he’s having something like a pizza
which takes 10 mins I’ll get it ready for when he’s coming through the door. As he has such a short time period before going to bed. Tech can be useful for making our lives easier.

Also we use it when meeting up with family. Instead of ringing to see where someone is and distracting someone when driving we can just check on the map to see where they are.

Oh right, it's just YOU told ME I DID 😩

It’s not strange at all. Your insistence that location sharing is the same as tracking or stalking is no more than an attempt to make what many find a useful tool sound like something much more sinister.

Yep, I get it. Especially with your previous relationship.

I don't have an issue with it as a whole. I CAN see how it could be misused in a controlling relationship. Hence me saying if you feel like it would be used in that way (not YOU specifically) then it shouldn't be on at all. And probably not in that relationship. You have to have that trust in the first place to know your partner isn't trying to watch your every move.

I don't feel though that those who do decide to have it on inherently have some sort of trust issues either. I do think it can be a very handy tool, it just needs to be used in the right way. Fine line!

It's more they told me I was tracking (location sharing, whatever) my husband but I never said I did, so that's a bit odd!

Another thing my kids like is seeing where the grandparents are on holiday. It’s been quite interesting for some of their far flung trips and where they are.

My friend is a single parent and she’s also asked me to track her when she’s gone on a long walk or on a date for safety purposes. It has so many uses.

I find it odd people leap to thinking about affairs! That doesn’t even cross my mind.

Personally I don't find a quick call annoying, and I'd take that over being constantly tracked any day!

Constantly tracked just isn’t accurate though, is it?

Who said stalking ? I think you need to actually look up what tracking means . It’s means having access to someone’s location it’s literally tracking . Why do you have such an issue with the correct term being used .

Why would you think you’d be being constantly tracked?
My sister often has her hands full with the kids, bag, buggy etc
Instead of me calling her and her having to dig about for her phone, I can just see where she is when I’m meeting her. Saves us both time. I don’t check where she is all day 🤣

Exactly. I only turn it on to have a look when my partner is on his motorbike or on a long trip. He often goes to France for work, so I like to see he made the Eurostar in time. I don't sit watching him moving!

Well it is actually. Your location is being constantly tracked, regardless of whether someone else is looking at it all the time. If someone put a tracker on your car, the amount of times they looked at the app would have no bearing on whether they were constantly tracking you - the tracking device being constantly on you is the point. That's exactly the same as a phone. And if you have it on, you have no control over or knowledge of when or how often someone is looking, they could be looking rarely or all the time.

I may be coming at this from a different angle having been in a controlling relationship where they would no doubt have used it all the time and questioned me about it. Perhaps it works for others and that's fine, but I would never let someone have that potential constant view of my movements.

As for the trust question, this leaps out at me from a PP - I trust him completely and if he wasn’t where I expected I’d message him.

Well to me, messaging if they happen to go off their expected course isn't trust. Adults do vary their movements and should be able to without someone checking what that means! I'd run a mile if someone did that to me.

Anyway, we can disagree, that's fine!

But why would you need to message him because he wasn’t where you expect him to be ?Don’t you think that’s controlling ( not where he should be) .

You did.

In your post at 08:27 today.

Where? I said tracking which you are .

Well it is actually. Your location is being constantly tracked, regardless of whether someone else is looking at it all the time.

It isn’t though is it. Unless it is monitored all the time you can only see where someone’s phone is at that moment in time, not where it has been.

Ok, I see your point about it the information being available. I guess I was coming from a place of ‘actively tracked’ instead.

I completely understand that the tool can be misused. It’s certainly not something that everyone should feel comfortable with, I agree with that.

It just seems like most of the posters on here that do share location are more open minded than those who don’t when it comes to this subject.

As you appear incapable of finding your own post, even when provided with the exact time it was posted, I’ll humour you.

“And large proportion don’t , I struggle to believe it’s not , manly used by others because of trust issues or a lack of basic communication. I’d rather my husband text or phone me with updated plans / time . Rather than have to stalk his location.”

Me and DH share locations with each other but not to check we are doing what we say more for safety (my part) and knowing if we are on the way home from work/gym.

I walk alot on my own for fitness so I feel better knowing DH being able to see where I am / check if I'm not back when I said I would be etc. I don't always hear or feel my phone if I'm in the zone listening to music (my phone doesn't interrupt it with the call) so he can just do a quick check if I'm still not back after I said I would be.
DH is terrible at remembering to let me know when he has left the gym to start his dinner (if is not the same as what the kids and I had earlier in the evening). It pings me when he leaves now so I know. So much easier than the have you left yet messages every other day.

We both have each other on life360 but I only use it to check that he’s left work before I put the tea on! He works in a job where if he’s delayed it’s not very easy to get a message to me so this saves spoiling the meal.

It works for us.

I don’t but I have friends that do, but their husbands have medical issues such as heart issues, epilepsy or type 1 diabetes.

We have an app, on both our phones. Great for not asking how long whilst driving and sticking the kettle on. Safety too, as we are very rural and used when relevant. Nothing to hide, so not tracking, just very useful at times.

Incredulous that so many women do the whole "dinner ready for husband when he gets in from work" thing, and actually see his timing as their responsibility to monitor.

I'm not the one who cooks, but dinner happens around the same time every day for whoever's in the house. If either of us is late, we're perfectly capable of asking the other to save us some, put it in the oven or just sort out our own. The one at home is not hanging around subject to the timing vagaries of the late one!

Like others have said we have a family group with our secondary school age children where we can see their location, and by extension i can see DH's and vice versa. Neither of us are at all controlling so it isn't a problem and it doesnt bother either of us. We wouldnt have set one up if it hadnt been for the children, however, as others have said it is extremely useful for logistical purposes and saves a lot of phonecalls eg what time are you leaving/when will you be back as I need to leave for X etc.
I have a friend who told me that their family had it and her husband began messaging her questioning why she has stopped/where she was going etc She deleted the app.

They're insecure and controlling. If my husband tried to track id be fuming.