Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

I don't necessarily think every instance of it is controlling but neither does it strike me as the handiest option in any scenario. If I was unexpectedly detained at work and couldn't use my phone I'd email, and then I'd message when I did actually leave. Just seeing that someone is still in their office doesn't tell me when they'll be able to leave it. But also - while I also think eating together is incredibly important - if a work-related thing came up for either of us that threw the timing out that much, I'd be perfectly OK with both of us just doing our own thing for dinner. I like eating with DH but I'm not waiting around tapping my fingers if I don't know whether he'll be back at 8 or 9 or 10.

We have life 360, it’s handy for things like needing to know what time to put the dinner on, or to see who is closest to pick our youngest up etc, but that’s about it. I’ve never felt the need to look at it to check he isn’t up to no good

Not only do I not understand why you'd worry just because someone's a bit late, I'm thankful that no one in my life is that anxious when I'm late.

I have just been thinking that !

No, never done this in any relationship.

No. We don’t have any location sharing on our phones and honestly I’d absolutely hate it. I don’t know why, I’m never anywhere my husband can’t know about and 9 times out of 10 he knows exactly where I am anyway, mostly because he’s there too - we both work predominantly from home for example. But I just hate the idea of it, and really have no need to know where he is every second of the day either. If he’s late home he’s late home - he’ll let me know or I’ll just assume traffic. If he can’t find his phone I’ll phone it for him. If he’s out with his mates or on a weekend away or whatever then that’s his time and he deserves to chill without feeling he’s being monitored, as do I when it’s my turn.

Sometimes because I’m lying on the sofa playing on the PS5 and I want to make sure I look like I’ve been run ragged when he walks in the door.

See I think that's a major part of it. If you don't have the trust in the first place that your partner WON'T be monitoring/tracking/stalking you, then you should definitely not share your location!

are you really trying to say she has no trust because she doesn’t track her husband . But you do because you tack yours . Very strange way as spinning things to suit your own narrative. You do realise shearing location is tracking .

Absolutely fuck that and I would leave anyone who even suggested that I be tracked.

I frequently go off radar on my phone or just take myself off for a day somewhere else. No one else's business. I always make sure I drop Mr Monkey a message to say when I will be back or what arrangements are for the evening.

Being "always on and contactable" is no good for my mental health.

Exactly. My husband never hears his phone over the traffic on the way home when I do text or call. Instead of phoning and not getting a reply I can see where he is in about 10 seconds and put his dinner in the oven.

Why wouldn’t I make use of that!?

This thread makes me think of people who refuse to use internet banking as they don’t trust it.

I mean I do - he wouldn’t be monitoring either. I just hate the idea of it, avoidant attachment style maybe 😁And I spent too long single (after a somewhat toxic situation in a previous long term relationship I’d been in since school in which checking each others phones, and fairly often finding something dodgy on his, was the norm).

If it works for other people fair enough, we’ve never once felt the need or been in a situation where it would have any advantage over just ringing/ texting the other. Maybe something will come up one day and we’ll decide it makes the most sense - also our child is still far too young for phones but at some point we’ll have to have the discussion about what we do with hers I suppose.

Something in me just rejects the idea of it that’s all. I can’t imagine DH giving a shit enough about which supermarket I’m in or how long it’s taking me to have a meal with my friend to be monitoring, and I certainly wouldn’t need to do the same for him - but the very idea that anyone could is just not something I’d want.

I want to know how the conversation comes up and whose idea tracking was to start with. It's such a weird concept to me - suggesting it to DH would feel like suggesting a weird sex kink (except not fun). If any man suggested it to me I would run a mile. If DH suggested it to me I would think he was joking and flat-out refuse.

Do I track mine?

My friend didn’t have tracking on as she didn’t really know it was a thing, and then lost her phone in a shopping mall. We had to ring round allll of the stores we’d been in to find where it had been handed in. If she had had the tracking on we could have located it and gone straight there. Needless to say she’s switched it on since then and said she couldn’t be without it.

My partner and I have tracking on our phones. We don't live together, and he likes the fact his phone pings when I've reached work and got home. Also, he is a motorbike rider, and he'll tell me when he is going off on a ride (mainly only once a week), so I like to check that he is safe as I worry about him on that bloody thing.

If I was running late and wanted my dinner warmed up ready for me I'm perfectly capable of making that request myself.

How long does dinner even take to warm up, 10 minutes? Most people are quite happy having 10 minutes between walking in the door and sitting down to eat. I'm not seeing the problem that required tracking tech to solve.

If you shear gps and you can see his location, yes that is tracking . Regardless how often you check that is literally what it is . Strange ppl don’t want us the word track when that is exactly what it is .

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Do we share our gps and locations?

This.

We have each other on find my iPhone. I don’t track him routinely but if I know he’s cycling alone I check he’s still moving (ie hasn’t had a crash)

If either of us are travelling for work we might use “find my iPhone” to see if the flight has landed.

We use Find My. It helps me to plan meals etc & helps him to find his phone 🙄

You don't need to turn off location or have a second phone. It is very easy to spoof your GPS location and make it look like you are somewhere else if you so choose, so the whole tracking thing is pointless for reasons of distrust.

That said, my wife and I shared each other's locations. Per some previous posters, it was purely convenience and rarely accessed. I commuted by motorbike, so it was handy for her to see where I was, and to be able to find me in the event of an accident.

We had no trust issues, nor anything to hide, so it didn't bother either of us.

Well then if you don’t share location , you don’t 🤪

We have a tracker in the car that i check. Not one on DH. He does a longer journey once or twice a week for work. He doesnt have time to tell me he's arrived before he starts. I track to see he's arrived safely. He's previously had a blown out tyre on a motorway so yes I track those journeys.