Is it odd my boyfriend barely checked in during a hen do?

[Freddie15VES]

Feeling a bit off about new relationship

long story short, we’ve only been together 7 months. I went on a hen do this weekend and he barely spoke to me, I was trying to talk to him like I usually do (I was on a hen do not on the other side of the world) and I was getting the very minimum back from him! He said he was ‘leaving me to it’

what got me more was I’d told him how I was really anxious about going, there were loads of people I didn’t know! So he knew this, but instead of checking in, he just let me deal with it

i just felt really alone, it’s not like we were doing something every hour of the day. It was a huge rented house (he knows all this) so a lot of chilling and sitting around

my ex (father of my kids) asked me if I was having fun more than my now boyfriend did….he only asked me twice in passing convo about the children. But still checked in more than my now boyfriend

is this odd?! Am I over thinking?!

I'm married, and my wife goes away a few times in the year to Spa Weekends or with her sister. A couple of texts is about all we exchange.

So, exactly as I said then. A married couple who live together for whom text is not the main communication method. Very different to OP’s (and my) circumstances.

I think on a hen weekend I'd message my husband like once, I'd expect similar back. I would not want him to keep checking on me.

OP it really depends on the level of communication you’ve already got with him, and that you’re both happy with. No one else on mn can tell you what you should be happy with. It sounds like it was a deviation from the normal level of communication you were used to with him. That maybe warrants a conversation, just to clarify where you both stand. Some of us love a lot of checking in - i think a lot of mn-ers don’t!

Definitely overthinking.