Sisters DH using AI to change images of a girl they know

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Really need some opinions on this. My sister is not on MN. I told her to join and post for advice, but I know she won’t have time.

I will show her the responses if I feel she needs it. She’s definitely being gaslit by her DH right now!!

So, my Sister (51) walked into her husband‘s (50) office yesterday, and saw an image on his laptop screen, of a young woman blowing a kiss. He could not close the image fast enough. It was a work laptop and I don’t really understand how it works, nor does she, however the image seemed to disappear behind another document so my sister could still see the out line of the photo. He then quickly deleted it properly.

There was something in the photo that rang bells in my sister’s mind, and it made her think of a birthday party that they had been to a couple of years ago. And she thought that she knew who the girl was in the photo. She was correct. It is her best friends daughter (21 now, 19 at the time the photo was taken).

My sister has been with her husband for 19 years, and when they met, this girl was 2 years old, and she calls him uncle.

Her husband has deleted the other three people in the photo (Mum dad and sibling) and has then put this photo into Gemini with the instruction to “make this photo sexy”. Which has resulted in the image being sexualised with three different photos, one with a sexy pose with the legs crossed, another with her bending forward and blowing a kiss, and then a third with her back to the camera with her looking over her shoulder.

When my sister was on the school run, her husband has gone scorched earth and deleted every photo on the laptop, so it’s now almost back to factory settings - this is of course making her think that there are even more photos, or worse photos that were there.

They are now at complete stalemate, with him saying you are overreacting, I was just messing around with Gemini, to her thinking, why have you sexualised photographs of someone who has been in your life since she was 2 and who calls you uncle, and how are they ever supposed to socialise around this family now given that they are all exceptionally close basically like family.

Prior to this they have been the perfect family unit. Lovely house, 3 perfect kids, no money worries. There is so much at stake.

What are your thoughts? My tummy is spinning.

I think that is pretty sick on a few levels: using Ai to make innocent photos of women sexy, sexualising a very young woman who he has known since childhood and gaslighting his wife to say it is nothing.

Can the images he has deleted be restored by someone with technical know how?

Run.

Vile and disgusting

My sister is pretty savvy and thinks she knows how. He initially refused, but has now said he will do it when the kids have gone to bed.

WTF 🚩🚩🚩

If he did it with Gemini and was signed in then It will be saved in his Gemini history.

As it's a work laptop, surely his employer would be interested. And might well have techies who could retrieve deleted photos.

But the possible disciplinary consequences might well impact the OP's sister.

He is the loveliest man too.

He has deleted his Gemini history

No, he is not.

Yes this is my fear too.

So was the blowing a kiss AI ? Or real?

He has used AI to manipulate the photo. In the original photo she is standing with her mum her dad and her sister. He has cropped the photos so that it is only her left and she is blowing him a kiss.

Yeah they're all the loveliest man

She really needs to see what he deleted so she can judge for herself whether this is relationship ending.

She’s married to a disgusting pervert, so unfortunately her life is about to implode no matter how she handles it. I would tell his employer, his mum, his friends, certainly the young woman affected and her parents. He can think of a good explanation while he’s packing his shit.

Yes, this is the goal. But it’s whether she will get to see that or not. Have to say, she is like a dog with a bone so if anybody was going to be able to get it out of him, it will be her.

Ok, that's it. I've had enough of 2026. Not only do we live in a world where this is easy to do without consent, but OF COURSE men are still rolling out the old 'over reacting' shit.

Depending on the type of images, produced, she needs to remember there could be illegality. Even if it went no further than the 'make this sexy', I'd be very, very concerned that he's objectifying someone he's know since she was 2.

And also great fathers.

Plus ca change.

Do you really think people who do this are obviously nasty or ugly or not someone's husband ?
She needs to take the laptop to police see what else is on therre now

No he isn’t. A lovely man doesn’t create images and perv over a girl who from two years old has considered him family.
Her parents wouldn’t think him lovely if they knew and the poor girl if she found out would probably be traumatised. Your sis needs to leave the creep.
Yuk

I’d say she knows enough already……and agree with pp, she should tell the family involved exactly why she’s kicked him out

What an utter dirtbag.

sorry for the use of Ai but some ideas:

Method 1: Recover Your Text Logs
Even if a chat is deleted from your sidebar, a fragmented log of your prompts and Gemini's responses may still be saved in your account. 1]
Go to the Google My Activity page.
Sign in with the same Google account you use for Gemini.
Scroll through the timeline to find your previous interactions and manually copy the text to save it.

Method 2: Check Your Browser History
If you were using Gemini in a web browser, the specific, unique link to your chat might still be in your browsing history.

Open your browser history (Ctrl + H on Windows or Cmd + Y on Mac).
Search for gemini.google.com/app.
Click on recent links. Opening a direct URL can sometimes force a "hidden" or glitchy chat to repopulate in your sidebar.

Method 3: Force-Sync Disappeared (But Not Deleted) Chats
If your chats suddenly vanished due to a server glitch rather than manual deletion, you can force them to re-sync:
Open Gemini and type a simple word (like "Test") into a new chat.
Let it generate a response, then refresh your browser or restart the app.
Click the sidebar—this often prompts the server to reload your older, missing conversations.

I will send her this! Thank you

I don't think there's any coming back from that kind of deeply perverted behaviour. It's pathetic, creepy, and breaks so many boundaries in terms of appropriate social norms - non-consensually sexualising a young woman who's young enough to be his daughter, who he's known since she was a toddler. It's predatory.

It would honestly be better (still very bad) if he'd been exchanging sexual messages with a woman his age at work. That would only be breaking the marriage vows - this is breaking the marriage vows AND being a predatory creep.