Sisters DH using AI to change images of a girl they know

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Really need some opinions on this. My sister is not on MN. I told her to join and post for advice, but I know she won’t have time.

I will show her the responses if I feel she needs it. She’s definitely being gaslit by her DH right now!!

So, my Sister (51) walked into her husband‘s (50) office yesterday, and saw an image on his laptop screen, of a young woman blowing a kiss. He could not close the image fast enough. It was a work laptop and I don’t really understand how it works, nor does she, however the image seemed to disappear behind another document so my sister could still see the out line of the photo. He then quickly deleted it properly.

There was something in the photo that rang bells in my sister’s mind, and it made her think of a birthday party that they had been to a couple of years ago. And she thought that she knew who the girl was in the photo. She was correct. It is her best friends daughter (21 now, 19 at the time the photo was taken).

My sister has been with her husband for 19 years, and when they met, this girl was 2 years old, and she calls him uncle.

Her husband has deleted the other three people in the photo (Mum dad and sibling) and has then put this photo into Gemini with the instruction to “make this photo sexy”. Which has resulted in the image being sexualised with three different photos, one with a sexy pose with the legs crossed, another with her bending forward and blowing a kiss, and then a third with her back to the camera with her looking over her shoulder.

When my sister was on the school run, her husband has gone scorched earth and deleted every photo on the laptop, so it’s now almost back to factory settings - this is of course making her think that there are even more photos, or worse photos that were there.

They are now at complete stalemate, with him saying you are overreacting, I was just messing around with Gemini, to her thinking, why have you sexualised photographs of someone who has been in your life since she was 2 and who calls you uncle, and how are they ever supposed to socialise around this family now given that they are all exceptionally close basically like family.

Prior to this they have been the perfect family unit. Lovely house, 3 perfect kids, no money worries. There is so much at stake.

What are your thoughts? My tummy is spinning.

Op please look up the Lucy Faithful Foundation. It is a helpline for family members worried about someone's online behaviour. They will support yoi to take next steps.

This man is dangerous and this must be reported to the police.

You can also look up the Internet watch foundation.

Please do this as he may ge viewing other unlawful material.

You can also google the Stop it Now helpline

That poor girl. An innocent photo with her family being coopted into some sad old man's (from her pov at least) wank bank. I don't think I would ever be able to look at him in the same way.

Why use her photos and not his own if he was just curious? He had to find and download the photos, upload & prompt Gemini to change it "make these photos...." etc I do it myself he picked one where she was in a shory skirt too 🚨🚨🚨.

He could well be telling the truth.

But he could have used a picture of his wife. He obviously doesn’t think she’s as attractive and he wanted a picture of someone sexy. He fancies this young lady even though he’s known her since being a toddler.

Is he actually her uncle (married-in) or just a friend of the family? Best his wife keeps him away from the young lady going forward.

He hasn't done anything criminal though, so doubt Police would be interested. The girl is 19.

He could well be telling the truth.

He might well have wanted to see what AI could do.

Unfortunately, what he wanted to see was if AI could sexualise an innocent picture of a much younger woman he's known her whole life.

That's the important bit not whether he was curious about AI or not 🙄

JFC, they really do walk amongst us. As a young woman growing up in the gropey, rapey, consequence-free 70s and 80s, I genuinely believed things would be better for our daughters (as, sadly, I guess the first wave feminists had also hoped).

Instead it just gets darker and more hopeless and terrifying every year. From the violent rhetoric of the manosphere, to teenage serial rapists being let off scot free (and congratulated by the judge for their ‘good behaviour’), to the 62 million visitors to the website advising how to drug & rape your partner (and share and monetise it), in 2026 I have very little hope left that even superficially decent men are really who they say they are.

Many of ‘the loveliest men’ will be those engaging in these websites and in the kind of activity your BiL is clearly starting to try on for size (assuming he hasn’t already cached far worse material). Despicable, predatory cunts, every last one of them.

I’m so very sorry for your sister and her family.

They have children? Ask how he’d feel to find out a family friend had manipulated photos of their children.

I think men just objectify women so routinely they don’t twig how disgusting it is.

And the corollary of course, suggest he sends the photos to her family. See how he feels about it then.

He is actually, factually, a terrible man.

Lots of people have commented on me saying that. These are my feelings before this - obviously, I meant that before this, there were zero concerns about him, or any signs that anything could be untoward. He has been a good husband to my sister - always in her corner - and a good father to their children. He works hard, he is generous, funny, clever, great fun to be around. Nothing remotely creepy.

If I compare him to my ExH, for eg, who was a serial cheat, and a sleaze ball, sisters DH doesn't come across this way at all.

Does your sister need anymore evidence. Personally, what she knows, is actually way enough. I could never look at him again. For me, i would leave and i do not say that lightly, but i couldn't ever forget.

Also, the fact that he has never shown any signs of this before, creeps me out. What is going on beneath, what he chooses to portray and the fact that he deleted stuff, is without question, evidence that this was not the first time!

While I agree there is no mileage in going to the police, the fact he's deleted his Gemini history is quite telling. These pictures are terrible, so it's unlikely whatever else he did is more innocent than this. And you suspect he's wiped his entire hard drive. No one really does that. And no one does that because their wife has found pictures where he's "just wanted to see what AI could do". Unless he has stuff on there he really doesn't want to be found. And let's be honest, we all know what that will be.

And yet, despite all that, at heart he is still a terrible man.

I don't get any joy out of posting this, by the way- I'm not sneering at you. Your shock is visceral.

it both horrifies and makes me feel deeply sad that it's so very difficult to find a properly trustworthy man. What hope is there, genuinely, it makes me think I'll be single for ever, when even the seemingly good ones so often have this rotten core hidden away. It's just depressing. And they hide it for years! And women (and the men themselves, actually) deserve better.

So I think sister is happy with his explanation now. I’m not so sure but I’m afraid to voice that really.

She choses to believe his narrative but she will forever (rightfully) doubt him. He's a pervert and I don't know how she does it lying next to him in bed🤮

None so blind as those who will not see. Good luck to her, I think she’ll need it.

The fact that it’s legal for AI to do this is horrendous. The poor young woman could have been a minor for all the AI knew.

I feel so stuck now. I think there is worse that was hidden hence the wipe but I can’t say that

Sounds like a dirty pervert to me .

Hopefully her horror at this will be an eye opener to him, that he’s crossed the line of acceptability. If he’s not gone further already, this may well stop him.
I can see how a bloke would see it as harmless and victimless- I don’t agree, but think women are better sensitised to issues of consent and objectification.