It’s really not on posters to agree or disagree with this religion.
The fact remains this is a hugely devout man, he is deeply religious he goes to the mosque and prays 5 times a day, his whole life, belief system and community, will be steeped in this way of life.
This is not it appears something new. The op knew full well when she converted, what she was getting into. And willingly did so.
the issue is now the honeymoon period has worn off and she’s realised what shes committed to, and it is not something she is comfortable with. There is absolutely no hope of him permitting her to effectively be visibly not practicing, and for him to remain with her. It will also not be an option for their daughter.
my grandparents home they lived in for about 50 years became a very Muslim community, it appeared the whole town was bought by Muslims, most women wore the burqa or niqab, she was the only non Muslim I ever saw id say in the last decade or so,driving in and out and going to the shops.
it was a lovely community, everyone was very kind and looked out for her, and of course when she passed her home sold for much more than its estimated value as many Muslims competed to buy it to live in the area. I had notes through the door, approached at her funeral etc, to the extent the solicitor had to take it over and deal with it, when my grandparents bought there was little to no Muslim presence, but over the decades it evolved. It was only the women who approached me personally. Never the men.
the upshot was I was often in the area, spoke to many of her female neighbours, was in their homes, as they often cooked for her, as she was very elderly, saw them without their burqas, their hijabs,their niqabs, and learned something of their lives.
for a non Muslim woman as I am it’s very very hard to comprehend how someone not raised in this culture can willingly sign up for it. But the fact is she knew and signed up for this, and if she removed her hijab,she is to all extents and purposes leaving the union. It amounts to the same thing, and so she needs to prepare for what that entails.
This is not do it and he will change his mind. She needs to leave. And she needs to get her self in order to understand what he will do in relation to the kids, how he will treat her, it is not going to be like leaving a non devout Muslim relationship.