How you chase this up?

[GlassBears]

My ex sent me a strange email the other week, late at night lots of rambling and basically saying sorry for the way he treated me and the children and asking me to contact him. I was shocked as hadnt heard from him in a year so I took about a week to respond but when I did he hasn’t responded since. Would you find this weird? I responded by email but he sent me his number would you text instead?

You’re coming across quite defensive OP when you have asked for the opinion of others, to which you are getting. You could text him and say you’ve emailed, and given his plea for contact, you’re surprised he hasn’t emailed back but that you won’t be chasing ie. the text is the final message you will send. Yes it’s likely he’s seen the email and playing games/regretting sending the original email, but at least then you can be sure he’s received your communication and can be done with it one way or another

If you responded to a message he sent you, it will not go into junk. But, you are obviously very keen to hold on to straws here, so maybe there are some unresolved feelings. Good luck resolving them.

No feelings, been split years and years, but the kids wanted a relationship with him so I was actually going to reach out myself but people said not to

Yes, I can see why that would be hard. He gave you his contact details. If you don't think he will mess them about (?) and they are sufficiently mature to be able to put boundaries in place and make sensible judgments (?) perhaps you could let them reach out to him themselves? Just a thought.

No they are young teens so wouldnt be fair incase he has changed his mind, if they were older maybe, I think im going to leave it ive taken the advice onboard.

To add they are shy kids and would definitely prefer me to do it but I will let them know that if ever they want to reach out they can