How can a man in his 40s meet women offline?

[Cheshireguy]

As per title I am a male in my 40's I have a none social brain so I find it hard to meet the opposite sex, tried online dating but got nowhere the sites seem empty to me. So moving away from online dating how do I meet women? Either casual no strings or something long term I am open to both, life is too short to be on your own

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I met DH at a running club (The Hash House Harriers- they are pretty much everywhere in the world). He was 50.

Good luck.

Also- look at your facebook community things. Near us we have a Thursday casual walking group for people who just want to get out to a local forest. It's not a dating thing, it's a get together thing. You will for sure have similar - swimming / cycling / whatever.

A friend of my mother's (in her 70s) is mad about travel. She has been on a few singles travel tours - in fact she is currently in China right now. She hasn't found romance but has made some very good friends.

Or try new things- I'm going to a bee keeping day in a few weeks- it's for a friend's birthday, but we will be 3 of a group of 9. I gave DH a foraging experience for his 70th and he made a good friend from that (again, not romance, but that wasnt what he was looking for).

Some are. A friend of mine is in one that he says is essentially walk dating. The more established members are a bit tired of it because often you never see either person again — date goes well, therefore they drop out because now they’re in a relationship and don’t need the club, or date goes badly/new relationship breaks down, and both people avoid the club in case they run into one another. They joke about banning singles unless they vow celibacy.

Next time I speak with Jonathan Palmer I will tell him how boring he is as he climbs up into his four million pound (not rented) Bell helicopter 👌

Yes, I agree but I only mention it because OP may not even be aware of it himself.

There you go again. That’s why you’re single. Owning a helicopter doesn’t make you interesting, and if you think it does, you have some very odd ideas about relationships.!

Do you work op?

I met DH at work. He is ten years older, but I think work is a good way to spend time with and get to know someone, without too much social pressure. We found out we shared quite a few hobbies (gaming, pc building, 3D modelling etc.).

We would never have gotten together otherwise, we are both introverts!

Work was how a lot of people used to meet, and since WFH those opportunities have really dried up. Most other social settings have the expectation that you instantly click and that's where relationships start, instead of the old-fashioned way where they develop over time.

I would say go to singles events, but the recent ones I've been to there have been a lot of people lying about their age (by about 15-20 years, both sexes do it) and their gender too (women buying the men's tickets because the women's tickets have sold out).

So a new man at the events would be welcome!

Truck fest is awesome I go to the Donington track every year sadly some members on here would not like it. Its full of monosyllabic boring, pork pie eating Yorkie demolishing low intelligence low brow people 😂

But that's the point OP. Not everyone would like it but those that do will be there so you are more likely to find people with the same interests. Do you talk to people when you are there?

Well, assuming some of them are female, presumably there’s your ideal woman?

Do you have friends? I think this is a very important question and it’s been asked but not answered.

And BTW I broke up with someone incredibly successful (rich) just before meeting (at the time unemployed) DH. A helicopter isn’t anything special. Being funny, and kind, and interesting, and lots of other qualities. Beats helicopter any time.

Hobbies men I’ve met have had. Cricket, rugby, surfing. Crystals, weekends away, fishing, trucks (remote controlled). Out of any of those I can’t see that many women being interested, maybe the crystals. Meet up social groups are a good idea. Before I met my boyfriend I went to a tribute night at a local pub and got chatting to a few men my age (I’m 54). I wouldn’t want to meet someone drunk.

Ceroc

If.you try and go where women are it doesn't help at all. I like musicals and opera and I see plenty.of women there but they either think there's something wrong with you or your gay and you haven't come out yet. "Youd be really nice if you weren't gay" I get.

Down the pub on a weekend its a nightmare. Since I started working out three times a week its actually got worse. I stay away from busy pubs, just not worth it.

Some women will be there absolutely hammered, throwing up in a corner. I say it again why bother ?

Well, I’d guess pubs, hobby clubs, or perhaps persevere with OLD?