How can a man in his 40s meet women offline?

[Cheshireguy]

As per title I am a male in my 40's I have a none social brain so I find it hard to meet the opposite sex, tried online dating but got nowhere the sites seem empty to me. So moving away from online dating how do I meet women? Either casual no strings or something long term I am open to both, life is too short to be on your own

Padel and Pickleball are pretty sociable and springing up everywhere.

In a way, you are, but for all sorts of emotional, psychological and practical reasons, not just financial.

Women don't NEED men any more. Women on the whole like men, good men, kind men, intelligent men, practical men, good looking men. So, as the PP you were replying to said, how would you enhance a woman's life? If she already has a job, a home, children, how will her life improve by you being part of it? It could be as undefined as being someone she enjoys spending time with, make her laugh, listen to her talk, share her ups and downs.

I assume he means that large groups can be a bit much, which is fair enough. Not everyone is an extrovert.

But you don’t want to meet someone online. 🙄 🤔

Bluntly, if you can’t see that you need to come at this via asking yourself what you’d be bringing to the life of a woman in her 40s who has her life sorted, then I can see why you’re single. She’s not going to ‘need’ you, she’s going to think ‘In what ways will he make my life more enjoyable’.

At the moment you come across as “Petrolhead with no emotional intelligence seeks shag’.

Thats a mad thing to say!

Gaming and car racing not mostly men anymore!

Ive been into both since very young, and the change in the female demographic interested in both is massive!

@Cheshireguy do you go to racing events? I know you say classic but broaden your horizons a bit. You say "non social brain" whatever that means but there are plenty of groups online for both racing and gaming. Again broaden your horizons would you consider console gaming too?
You dont need to try to date people in these groups just get chatting, make new friends, who knows what could happen. Lots of online groups to do with racing arrange meet ups at circuits/events. And the gaming community is super social.

I dont see how you can do anything non-social, your going to have to push through that to find someone im afraid. You can be quiet/shy/nervous but still make an effort and meet people.

You should definately be able to meet women at classic car events/meet-ups/motorcycle groups.

Go to some car/motorbike shows, there are women there who are obviously interested in cars/bikes too, start you off with a common interest.
My OH goes to them when they are nearby and has said there are women there aswell and if you don’t meet anyone you still get to spend the day looking at cars/bikes 😂

Geeezus man theres no need to be rude! I love racing and gaming. And im not bad looking either 😂 just because your not interested in those things doesnt mean other ppl wont be. He was answering a question about his interests he wasnt asked what he can offer a woman and one the first few dates he shouldn't be offering anything but manners and respect.

Having met lots of men through my hobbies over the years I can honestly say those into gaming and motorsport have been the Kindest, most interesting and put lots of effort in....they hobbies really are a passion and they have a lot to give.

Not everyone woman wants a man into the same hobbies....give me a gamer or a motorsport fanatic over running (yawn) or a gym any day!

Totally agree @OneShyQuail, my OH is petrolhead and atleast he has more interesting things to talk about than “i managed to do 20 reps at the gym today” 🥱 much prefer “i pulled the engine out my DT and changed the shocks on my CBR here look at this before and after pic of this welding i done” 😂

Rubbish the global gaming audience is about 50% female !

Gaming is good opportunity to meet ( albeit on line ) try going to some events, be clean- smart and presentable and go along

With the luck I have with cars I'd love DH to have this kind of skillset!

Yea very handy to have a OH who can change breaks/discs,do a service, clutch etc, bonus is you get to watch them work in the sun getting manly oil smears 😂

Very different to DH with his D&D and painting (not the useful household decorating type!)

"like just going for a walk and greeting people."

I don't think it's a good idea to advise a non-social person to go around accosting random women going for walks.

OH is pokemon cards/figures and dragonball cards/figures lol but he does do DIY, we are both pretty handy- had to be, the cost of putting a car in the garage or hiring a decorator was mad!

Ever thought about becoming a motorsport marshal, plenty like minded petrol heads there and it opens your world up to meeting people from all over the UK if you're willing to travel to different circuits. It's a similar vibe to the camaraderie in the military.

Dating apps suck. See if there’s any clubs in your area you could join. If you have a niche interest Facebook groups around that help with meeting like minded people

079 me

No, but you could join Ramblers or something and meet people on group walks.

Hes a 40 plus man, let's go through the basics first.

Are.you over 6ft ? Only 15% of women want to date a man who is under 6ft.

Then, money. Your going to need a earn a LOT of money. Men in their.40s should " have sorted themselves out" but this translates into must own a five bedroom mansion. Your job is always to pay - equality doesn't exist for you, dont pretend it does, because it doesnt

Lastly, shape. Now when a women is big she is automatically beautiful, but a man cant. He must be toned, with that high defined six pack. Generally your shape is never enough, but aim for Jack Reacher. Combine that with a short temper and a set of quotes from everyman favourite film, The Fast and the Furious.

Its all about what.you bring to the table. Its fine for a woman to bring three badly behaved children and an ex who is border line psychotic, but as a man you should bring the table, the cloth, the chairs, it all must come from Fortnum and Mason. Hopefully you've been bad when you were younger and now you've "changed". The stats show that women like voilent men. I personally wouldn't bother.

Good luck, youll need it.

😂 😂

I know 2 women who have met and married lovely men they met at Ceroc classes. 💃

The pp is not wrong! The ticking clock for women in their 40’s is largely over so they don’t need a man in the same way a younger woman who wants kids might. Someone that enhances their life/happiness is what most are looking. It was a fair question!

Yup online dating is really bad the issue is only a tiny portion of the population use them (regardless of what the press say) so your chances of meeting any one is slim. Almost impossible to meet any one local so long distance is the only way its all in the statistics, fake profiles and staff members of the sites replying to messages...

I don't mind "overweight" women I don't really have a type to be honest