Ow have a very skewed sense of reasoning, the middle class ones who believe they are educated are the worst, they reason out their blame through perceived intellegence about luurve.
Thirers is not a grubby love, theirs is higher calling of two guided souls who eventually are brought together by fate and a grubby work romance.
Heaven.
Then the truth of the matter hits down the line and their scrambling to find reason for their discard, the truth hurts to know and accept they have just been used. An unbelievably common occurance and one they never beieved could happen to them because they were special. For some reason they believe wives should be more realistic and accept their man will fall in love with these desirable creatures but they themselves cannot handle realism, that most men want to return home and they were used for playtime for stupid men.
I know plenty of couples who have been through the crap of affairs and most of them stayed together and most of the wives treated the returning males like crap, and they put up with it hoping to be forgiven, hoping to be treated one day with an ounce of dignity and love and like human beings, after your supposed saving of the poor husband.
And the one thing they all do is forget about the ow., like you meant nothing.
Now who would want that for themselves, too late for many of you, but try not to promote being an ow is good or place respectability on it because we don't want that for young women, to accept crumbs from married men.
If you accept a zero tolerance policy then the younger genrations may not feel that it's quite so acceptable, by not accepting any blame you are actively promoting a lack of self esteem for young women, your denial is creating a lacking in values culture and is harmful for women.
Not so clever.