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Life360 Shows DH Spent 59 mins in Thai Massage

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Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 09:28

As the title says. DH away abroad with some friends. Checked life 360 this morning and showed he had spent 59 minutes in a Thai massage place. Took all the screenshots and sent a friend. It’s not on Google but on street view with a number. It’s not looking good is it??

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Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 12:57

I do know their wives yes, but we are no longer talking after a fall out last year.
one of the wives husbands did get caught out cheating a few years ago too.

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bohemianwrapsody · 16/05/2026 12:58

DoYouLikeYourNaneFred · 16/05/2026 12:19

😂😂😂

luckily he was pissed not drowned!

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I actually sent him a screenshot and asked whether he'd drowned 😂 luckily I know that Life360 can be pretty unreliable 😂

SnappyUmberLion · 16/05/2026 12:59

Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 12:57

I do know their wives yes, but we are no longer talking after a fall out last year.
one of the wives husbands did get caught out cheating a few years ago too.

You’ve fallen out with all of the wives?

Imdunfer · 16/05/2026 13:00

You don't trust him. Whether you have good reason for that or not (i think you do), I'm not sure why you stay with a man you don't trust.
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bohemianwrapsody · 16/05/2026 13:06

SnappyUmberLion · 16/05/2026 12:59

You’ve fallen out with all of the wives?

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Drip drip drip 🤣

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/05/2026 13:08

CheeseAndTomatoSandwichWithMayo · 16/05/2026 12:26

@Caramelsyrup you know and I know that Thai Massage at 9 pm for an hour probably means sex.

But it isn't 100% definitely sex.

Have you reason to doubt him? Or is this the first time? Is there any way of checking his messages ?

If not and as you say you cant check his bank account I'd take a deep breath and do nothing until you CAN do something

You're not going to end your marriage on life360 which can be very "off" at times

When he gets back, you might be able to get more information either from him or from a bit of snooping

Stay calm. This isn't necessarily the end of the world

At the very least it’s a hand/mouth job. Only OP can decide if she lets this pass or not.

Delphiniumandlupins · 16/05/2026 13:09

Ask him where he has been before you mention the 360 location. See what he says about that area.

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Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 13:16

Delphiniumandlupins · 16/05/2026 13:09

Ask him where he has been before you mention the 360 location. See what he says about that area.

yes sent message asking how is night was but not heard anything from him at all today

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Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 13:18

SnappyUmberLion · 16/05/2026 12:59

You’ve fallen out with all of the wives?

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It’s a long story and not one I’m going into here but they are not very nice women!

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mumuseli · 16/05/2026 13:19

How old is/are your DC? I appreciate it’s not easy to leave someone, but I hope you can get strength and advice from some of the posters (the nice ones) on here. x

Spicysirracha · 16/05/2026 13:19

Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 12:57

I do know their wives yes, but we are no longer talking after a fall out last year.
one of the wives husbands did get caught out cheating a few years ago too.

How many wives?

whynotwhatknot · 16/05/2026 13:23

hes got previous just leave him

Secondtrythebest · 16/05/2026 13:37

whynotwhatknot · 16/05/2026 13:23

hes got previous just leave him

Agreed, he sounds rotten! What on earth is the OP doing with a man like that?

Shinyhappyapple · 16/05/2026 13:42

Lugol · 16/05/2026 10:28

The gaslighting on this thread is off the charts.

If I was cynical I'd think it was men posting as women to gaslight the OP.

I don’t think that’s it TBH. After a while people get a bit weary of all these drama lama threads with the drip feeds. Like OP is worried about what her partner is doing in a Thai Massage place as she’s heard from MN they are dens of iniquity, a few updates later her DH has form for private dances in strip clubs and lying to her. Some threads feel authentic, others less so.

Muffinmam · 16/05/2026 13:51

Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 09:32

At 9pm at night after drinking ?? I’ve seen enough threads on Mumsnet to know Thai massage parlours especially abroad are dodgy! He knows we have life 360 yes

One time I was in Melbourne for business I stopped at a massage place after dinner. The massage was awful so I walked 10 minutes down the road and had a second massage.

If your husband was booking a s-x worker then she would have gone straight to the hotel and you wouldn’t have known.

Grow up.

Also, I used to get a Thai massage at least once a week when I was working.

My partner regularly gets massages. I encourage him to. I suggest you book a Thai massage. Just ask them to be gentle - they can be really deep.

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/05/2026 13:51

Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 12:14

I messaged him earlier asking how his night was but I haven’t heard from him since early yesterday evening. It’s showing now he’s on the beach so clearly out of sight out of mind. He has been caught out going to a strip club and admitted to paying for a Private dance. I found out after he had lost his phone and I told him to ring round bars he had been to see if it had been found. It was only weeks later I was checked my DS phone (he was only 12/13 the time) and saw he had searched for the strip club number and had rang them. Things have happened before and he’s talked his way out of them. For example he worked in London a lot and on one of the iPads on iCloud a window was open saying ‘call girls London’ - he talked out of this by saying he had been on a porn site and a pop up opened and that was the pop up he hadn’t closed. He admitted before he met me he had paid for prostitutes in Amsterdam. So yes I have had suspicions about things before and a gut feeling so when I saw this it kind of felt like a punch in the stomach. It’s the only place on the street, I’ve googled the address on street view and it comes up but the pic was from May 2025. There was a number which I’ve rang and it rings out. Only thing I can think of to justify it is if it’s an old image it may not be open anymore.

Well…. all of these things would have been reasons for me to end it long ago, why are you suddenly angry now?! He will soon try and talk his way out of it like the other examples so what has changed?

Muffinmam · 16/05/2026 13:51

Why is he abroad without you? He’s married. Why aren’t you with him?

TheBloomingDahlia · 16/05/2026 13:52

Why did you stay with him after knowing he has had sex with prostitutes and lies about going to strip clubs?

fabstraction · 16/05/2026 13:53

Taking his history into consideration, yes, I'd assume he's still doing disgusting things, especially if he's not the type to just go for a massage. (Most men I know have probably never had a massage in their lives, aside from one from a spouse/partner.) A massage after a night of drinking feels particularly unlikely to be innocent, unfortunately.

TonyGallaSoInLoveNsoul · 16/05/2026 13:57

Oh op as soon as he's off the leash he's at it for sleazy paid sex.
He will never change.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 16/05/2026 14:00

He is not a good man. Not at all.

Lins77 · 16/05/2026 14:04

Muffinmam · 16/05/2026 13:51

One time I was in Melbourne for business I stopped at a massage place after dinner. The massage was awful so I walked 10 minutes down the road and had a second massage.

If your husband was booking a s-x worker then she would have gone straight to the hotel and you wouldn’t have known.

Grow up.

Also, I used to get a Thai massage at least once a week when I was working.

My partner regularly gets massages. I encourage him to. I suggest you book a Thai massage. Just ask them to be gentle - they can be really deep.

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I don't understand this post (and "grow up" is unkind). Are you suggesting groups of or individual men would never go to an "establishment" for sexual services, but would only ever hire someone to come to their hotel? Or that all "Thai massage" places only offer legitimate massages and nothing else? That's clearly untrue.

CMM4 · 16/05/2026 14:06

So he’s been caught out before and you’re still with him?? Why?? God knows what he might have given you 🤮🤮🤮 get some self respect OP and leave!!!!

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 16/05/2026 14:07

TeaPot496 · 16/05/2026 10:41

I don't think you understand. Lots of families can see each other family members' locations. It is something they all set up together and consent to. You don't have to like it, but you have made yourself look ignorant by saying it is 'vile'.

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Miranda pops up on every thread like this to bash the hurt OP for “looking at his phone” or “tracking him” - she/he has an obsession about it.
Always claims it’s as bad as the actual cheating. Bonkers.

Ginnnny · 16/05/2026 14:13

LOVE a Thai massage always get one - or more - on holiday!
it’s a shame you don’t trust your husband and the man haters on MN are feeding into that.

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