Life360 Shows DH Spent 59 mins in Thai Massage

[Caramelsyrup]

As the title says. DH away abroad with some friends. Checked life 360 this morning and showed he had spent 59 minutes in a Thai massage place. Took all the screenshots and sent a friend. It’s not on Google but on street view with a number. It’s not looking good is it??

Also I can’t check finances as he has his own personal bank account that he will be using.

Oh love, he’s a cunt.

Would it be terribly hard for you to leave him at the moment? Believe me, I know it’s not as simple as just leaving when it comes to finances and children.

I’d be at least emotionally and physically checking out of the relationship.

Why so aggressive?

Just because you're not wised up enough to know what I'm getting at, doesn't mean nobody is. I'm not going to break MN rules though for you.

It is a shame that when pointing out that Life360 can be inaccurate, it turns out that the establishment was down a side street with nothing else around it to cause confusion. But like you say perhaps that is standard for European massage parlours. They don't want to blend in with other businesses to legitimise themselves like in the UK. But not completely hidden like a secret brothel, as the name is right there on Google maps.

So he has form op. 😔 what more evidence do you need? Why are you still with him? He pays women for sex - he’s not a good man.

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luckily he was pissed not drowned!

Well I think you already know him and what he's up to. Unless you catch him in the act itself he will never ever admit it. Please get Sti tested.
You can Google the name of the massage place and put punting in next to the search and it will give you reviews of sex work if it goes on. But really you know.

The wind ups on here are unreal. Do you really think on a night out on a lads holiday her husband would go with his mates for a normal wholesome massage? Come on 🙄

Hes given you many reasons not to trust him op, I feel for you. Its disgusting behaviour...please leave him. The London call girls would have done it for me. They always talk themselves out of it xxx

@Caramelsyrup you know and I know that Thai Massage at 9 pm for an hour probably means sex.

But it isn't 100% definitely sex.

Have you reason to doubt him? Or is this the first time? Is there any way of checking his messages ?

If not and as you say you cant check his bank account I'd take a deep breath and do nothing until you CAN do something

You're not going to end your marriage on life360 which can be very "off" at times

When he gets back, you might be able to get more information either from him or from a bit of snooping

Stay calm. This isn't necessarily the end of the world

OK. I've seen your update. He has form. You don't need proof

Exactly! Some ridiculous replies on here.

What? 😵‍💫🤪

This

I’d be moving him out. Let him come back from Benners to find he has nowhere to go. No excuses, no explanations. You don’t need them from him, he’s not even trying to hide it is he?

Leaving tabs open, leaving his stuff in strip clubs, doesn’t give a fuck that life360 is tracking him. He thinks you’re a mug who will never leave him. Scum

That would be divorce for me , using sex workers is not only cheating but it’s absolutely the lowest of the low . He has nil respect for you or your family or women in general .
Im truly sorry op

He used prostitutes before he met you? And you had children with him? God love you that you think this creature was all you deserved. Get yourself checked and never allow him near you again.

@Caramelsyrup

Well that last post was quite the drip feed. Life360 is pretty useless in cities for exact locations but as he’s been to strip clubs, had private dances and used prostitutes in Amsterdam and London in the past, what did you think he was going to be getting up to during a weekend with the lads??

I don’t know why you are so shocked. You should have left him years ago. He’s fucking awful.

This is a massive case for "when somebody shows you who they are believe them". And run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.

9pm, after drinking, on a lads trip. Can’t believe some of the responses on here. It’s obvious what he was doing. I’m sorry OP 🤗

I'm so sorry @Caramelsyrup
From what you've told us about him I'd say it's likely that if you confront him he will lie and spin and try to get out of it. And you might feel that you want to believe him because you quite understandably don't want him to be a cheat and a liar.
It might be better to try and act normal whilst continuing together evidence. I appreciate that is v difficult to do when you've just had the rug pulled out from under you like this.

Why are you even surprised? The amount of times he’s been sleazy previously didn’t clue you up?

Leave the twat or continue as you are allowing him to have the bachelor life whilst you sit crying and shaking about it.

No wonder he keeps going to these types of places when you’ve repeatedly let him off, you’re a mug and he knows it.

Im very sorry OP! Get an STD check and tell him you want a divorce. You deserve much better!! He’s very grim to be using your child’s device to call strip clubs. I wouldn’t even tell him you know. He’ll just try and spin it.
‘don‘t think we‘re compatible anymore‘ would work well. Try and look for financial information whilst he’s away and arrange meetings with a solicitor.

Are you friends with any of the partners of the other guys he’s on holiday with @Caramelsyrup ?

The track record element changes it. But it sounds like he won’t change so you either need to be prepared to break up with him or to ignore it