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Can dating work for single parents with only school-hour free time?

149 replies

HoTToTouch · 04/05/2026 15:28

I’m a single parent and my kids don’t see their dad. I have been a single parent for many years. However for the past four years I’ve basically had no break at all, but I’m just starting to get a bit of time back the catch is it’s only during school hours.

I’m wondering if anyone else has been in a similar position and actually managed to meet someone? As in, you have children and don’t have evenings, weekends, or full days free to spend building a relationship in the usual way.

People have suggested dating while the kids are at school, but I can’t quite picture how that works in reality or whether it’s enough to form something meaningful.

I think it’s starting to hit me that I might be on my own forever which I’m trying not to be sad about but I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s made this kind of situation work.
(For personal reasons I am unable to use babysitters)

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HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 20:27

People work part time, from home or self employed you know. You’re extremely negative, you never know till you try!

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Wynter25 · 05/05/2026 20:28

Ophir · 05/05/2026 19:23

My point was that most people want to see their partner on an evening, or over a couple of nights away or out sometimes, or a holiday. That’s not an unreasonable thing to say

I do think getting a man round when your children are in bed is weird though

When i started seeing my partner he came round when my kids were in bed. How else would we spend time together.

Ophir · 05/05/2026 20:37

Wynter25 · 05/05/2026 20:28

When i started seeing my partner he came round when my kids were in bed. How else would we spend time together.

I think it’s so weird, I’d never have had a man over when my dc were in bed

get a babysitter!

Wynter25 · 05/05/2026 20:56

Ophir · 05/05/2026 20:37

I think it’s so weird, I’d never have had a man over when my dc were in bed

get a babysitter!

Edited

Its not weird at all

Ophir · 05/05/2026 21:10

Wynter25 · 05/05/2026 20:56

Its not weird at all

But what if they get up?! Find a strange man smooching their mum?

Strong no from me

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:15

I guess you have little ones, most older kids sleep through the night.

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BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 21:43

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:15

I guess you have little ones, most older kids sleep through the night.

so you'd introduce a strange man (to your children) into your home while your children sleep but you won't introduce a DBS checked accredited babysitter?

unless your children are immobile; they can still wake up in the night regardless of age.

Ophir · 05/05/2026 21:51

BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 21:43

so you'd introduce a strange man (to your children) into your home while your children sleep but you won't introduce a DBS checked accredited babysitter?

unless your children are immobile; they can still wake up in the night regardless of age.

Exactly

No man I dated would be anywhere near my house and kids while they slept

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:52

BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 21:43

so you'd introduce a strange man (to your children) into your home while your children sleep but you won't introduce a DBS checked accredited babysitter?

unless your children are immobile; they can still wake up in the night regardless of age.

😂 “once I got to know them”

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Ophir · 05/05/2026 21:53

Get to know a babysitter

And it’s not just that, are you really going to be smooching with your nan while your kids sleep? What if they catch you??

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:54

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 15:26

Most single dads are NRP i will join online dating and see whats out there… people are free not to date me but I will be up front about what time I have available. Eventually they can come round when the kids are in bed but that’s a long way off.

Eventually… long way off 🤦‍♀️

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HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:54

Ophir · 05/05/2026 21:53

Get to know a babysitter

And it’s not just that, are you really going to be smooching with your nan while your kids sleep? What if they catch you??

Edited

You have no idea why I won’t be using a sitter nor will I be disclosing the reason.

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Throwawayusernameforme · 05/05/2026 22:02

Ophir · 05/05/2026 21:53

Get to know a babysitter

And it’s not just that, are you really going to be smooching with your nan while your kids sleep? What if they catch you??

Edited

Please don't be smooching with your nan!!! 😂😂

BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 22:05

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:52

😂 “once I got to know them”

Well it's going to be hard getting to know someone if you're only seeing them on their lunch break isn't it?

Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:06

Throwawayusernameforme · 05/05/2026 22:02

Please don't be smooching with your nan!!! 😂😂

Oh god 🙈😂

Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:07

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 21:54

You have no idea why I won’t be using a sitter nor will I be disclosing the reason.

No need to disclose

But don’t bring men into your home for dating then

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 22:08

Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:07

No need to disclose

But don’t bring men into your home for dating then

I can do what I like

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Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:18

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 22:08

I can do what I like

You can

Doesn’t mean you should

BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 22:25

Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:07

No need to disclose

But don’t bring men into your home for dating then

Shocking isn't it.

Ophir · 05/05/2026 22:56

BusinessAnalyst · 05/05/2026 22:25

Shocking isn't it.

Grim

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 22:59

😂

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HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 22:59

The most over used word on mumsnet.

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Ophir · 05/05/2026 23:04

Im assuming this is a wind up now

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 23:21

You do realise the vast majority of single mums that date invite the man around when their kids are in bed eventually? No one pays for babysitters for 6 months+, that would be unaffordable for most single mums.

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Ophir · 05/05/2026 23:30

HoTToTouch · 05/05/2026 23:21

You do realise the vast majority of single mums that date invite the man around when their kids are in bed eventually? No one pays for babysitters for 6 months+, that would be unaffordable for most single mums.

I do not realise this

Not for me

As a single mum

mine are older now, but would never have done this