We all know that one person that always orders the most expensive thing when someone else is paying, but… extreme content 😂

[AliceR1]

What is it with men and being totally reckless with money? Guy and I, known each for about 5 years, went exclusive about six months ago. It’s his birthday next week so I said I’d take him out for a birthday meal out. He picked the place so I knew it wasn’t going to be budget but what I wasn’t planning on was him ordering a £100 bottle of wine followed by more by the glass. I wasn’t drinking as I drove there and back. He knows I’m not in the poor category but that’s essentially down to extreme budgeting, which he’s well aware of. It was a nice mea out, totally ruined by me still internally stewing over the fact that I picked up a tab the equivalent of a monthly food budget for me and two kids and totally put me off sticking around him for a moment longer. We do get on but this really narked me.

It is, but I’ll pull it down anyway.

lol I love the review, it’ll give a few people a good laugh … I’d score them on them though without the ex being scored

The best way to not suffer from his greed would be to walk out and leave him sitting there with his bottle of wine. Obviously that would be the end.

Why isn’t having a trending thread on Mumsnet and having messaged the bloke enough? What is wrong with you?

I was totally with you in not having set a £ limit (no one does this, you just assume they act reasonably). I did query why you wouldn’t question why he needs more wine after a full bottle - bit odd unless he’s Oliver Reed. But this review stuff is nuts.

Sorry if I caused offence, wasn’t my intention, but, sitting around for an hour because they’re disorganised is poor show. As I said, I will pull it down, now.

Yes he is. That is a straw in the wind. You see which direction it was blowing and I absolutely would not be with someone who felt fine about rinsing me dry and exploiting my generosity.
That attitude would be intolerable to me. He's taking you for all he can.

I'd edit or put up a new review with this. That's useful to know.

The good bits: lovely surroundings, exquisite toilets, top notch food
The not so good bits: took over 20 minutes past booking time to get a table. Ordered immediately, took further 40 minutes to actually get food.

Be glad he's opened your eyes to what a rude, unprincipled, exploitative arsehole he is.

Any stuff of his at yours? If so, binbag it and tell him it's on the doorstep, or drop it on his doorstep. Block him on every level.

I think it is a d*ck move, rather than a lack of awareness.

DH has a friend who earns a fortune but always leaves others to pick up the tab. Then he boasts about how frugal he is and how him and his wife are somehow superior as they 'think' about every purchase. After leaving others to pick up the tab for concert tickets, equipment hire, food accommodation... Cannot stand the CF anymore and he won't do it anymore with me.

I’m upset that I allowed a leech so close to me, especially after not having had an easy ride (and I realise many don’t have) - that’s what’s wrong with me. Thank you for understanding.

Sounds like ummm he needs to be put back into the lake. As for you my special friend you need to put your hook and bobber into the ocean and find something bigger and better that will suit you because

Let’s not bash the lady she has spent out on an awful man & is feeling a bit bruised. I’m glad you have taken the review down well done. Waiting for the update where he transfers you some money now………..

Why are you unable to have a difficult conversation? She has the hide of a rhino - this won’t be the first time she has been called out - she won’t care - she’ll probably fall into line. If she doesn’t then drop her / why live being used like this and with festering resentment.

Look at it as a personal emotional development opportunity to practice speaking out.

ODFO.

This is nothing to do with politics, it's just a piss taking wanker who would be just the same if he earned 500 grand a year.

I don't blame you for dumping his selfish arse – he sank £100+ worth of booze in 1 hr 40 mins! But that review WILL go viral if you don't take it down and if he in any way disputes your version of events – as in he claims he thought you saw what he was ordering, you told him to treat himself etc – it could be more trouble than it's worth.

But it's a very funny review!

You’re absolutely right but also totally see where @Glitchymn1 is coming from. It is, for some reason, difficult to pull up people on their misconduct if they’re close to home, whether friends or family. Social obligations not to cause rifts. A while ago a friend of mine had a another friend of hers staying the weekend and it was another example of human leech behaviour… no contribution, no gratitude (example - pay for a lunch out?), she even paid for coffees out in town etc and in the end this woman for some reason stuffed used bath towels behind the toilet pipe. Zero awareness that there’s bedding to be washed, place probably tidied to a higher standard, groceries purchased etc. Some people are just inept but the expectation is to suck it up and not be the difficult one. When’s actually quite the opposite.

Dear John
The birthday meal was £200 of which £50 was your meal £50 was my meal and you spent £100 on your drinks. In addition I drove there and back. This was in addition to your birthday present of x. I am not one for being materialistic - I budget wisely, I’m a single parent and dress is from vinted etc and although I’m not stingy - I have realised you are materialistic and a piss taker. My gift from you at Christmas was £40. Ahhh I hear you say Maria, you are just being transactional and money orientated - no John that’s you. Ordering £100 wine that I pay for when I’m not drinking is just selfish. will I be able to do the same on my birthday to you nope I doubt it :and that’s because I will be with someone else.
Hope you had a lovely birthday meal you selfish prick, enjoy being single.
Maria

More the fool you! Atleast OP is wise enough to learn from her "mistake" (trusting that a person would behave correctly) and has decided to throw this prince of a twat in the bin. Why are you putting up with this over and over? Is there a mug of the year award handed out that we don't know about?

£100+ on wine is way overboard, you've also only been official 6 months, what will he want for your ten year wedding anniversary, liquid gold?

Please - life’s not easy. I came here not for advice as such but for support of my battered soul and to vent. Not a rocket science that dump is the way forward. I think in @Glitchymn1 case, this is a vent, not advice whether to tolerate this. Band together and support, not bash, chip in with your own load of 💩 you’re having to put up with, not judge. Collectively we’re quite lovely 🥰

Get rid of him. He's a twat.

Wow. Firstly the one paying orders the wine usually
But you werent drinking.
So in this case he should have been considerate. Unless be often orders expensive wine that you drink. Does he usually pay?? Thats the only excuse really, if usually he orders and gets you nice wine and you happily drink it.

Anymore response from the CF?

Ick

Ask him for the money for the wine then block him . He took the piss he must see that ? You wasn’t even drinking it ! Such grabby behaviour