Well I’ve finally done it

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

I’ve told husband not to come back after dropping his daughter off at her mum’s tonight. For anyone who has seen my previous threads they’ll understand. He is currently promising he’ll change etc but I just feel numb. He’s saying if he stays away tonight he won’t be back and I do feel ok about it. Then he accused me of throwing his daughter out on the streets.

I just feel so numb

Is he drunk?

No, neither of us drink.

Oh not the poster I was thinking about

do you have kids?

I would be locking doors that’s for sure

Please link to your previous thread

There have been so many threads about his behaviour. I’m not sure how to link in my phone.

Well it’s difficult to comment then

good luck i suppose?

Brief summary:
Lets his daughter get away with everything whilst endlessly criticising my kids.
Cross dresser who kept setting boundaries then crossing them whilst accusing me of not supporting him. Announced this to the world on FB without discussing with me (I did know but it was very private).
Drunkenly sexually assaulted me (in a minor way) more than once.
Had scary episodes of road rage
Financially controlling

Thought he didn’t drink?

He doesn’t any more, but we both used to abuse alcohol

I don’t drink either

I imagine your poor kids are swinging from the chandeliers with delight

never ever let this happen again, for their sake if not your own

Thank fucking god.

Please dont cave.

Bloody hell.

Well, you are well rid by the sounds of it!

He’s saying if he stays away tonight he won’t be back and I do feel ok about it. Then he accused me of throwing his daughter out on the streets.

”Yes I feel great about that. And it was your job to keep your daughter housed, not mine. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out.”

Holy shit.

I'm with PP - DON'T CAVE.

Sorry folks I’m feeling pretty broken right now.

Why? Genuine question?

Look at your children and feel SO happy that you are finally advocating for them

@MyGhastIsFlabbered I appreciate that you are feeling discombobulated but this is the best result and please hold your nerve.
You will be so much better in the long run

Ahh come on Op, You've got this! Let the cruel accusation of turfing his daughter onto the street fuel your anger and determination. What an arse he is

You didn’t throw his daughter onto the streets. His behaviour did. He is responsible for it.

please don’t feel broken - you did the very right thing, take something from that.

Wtf is your problem?

I’m feeling broken because he emotionally blackmailed me, that I’ve put my kids through all of this for too long, that I am disrupting his daughter’s life, and also, because I honestly thought he could return to being the man I fell in love with, rather than this angry person he’s become.

@Rokabe Why are you intent on needling the OP?

She's come on here for support, not to justify herself to you.

Sounds like youre well shot of him

Well done, stay strong x

It’s that problem where he wasn’t always awful, it would have been much easier to end it if he was 100% arsehole