Sick to death of being alone every Saturday night

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Long term boyfriend spends every Saturday night in the pub. I would like to see him the odd Saturday!

Are you home every Saturday night because of children? (His children?)

I'd feel the same and it'd be relationship ending for me. I'm sure other people would disagree but if dh never prioritised time with me I'd leave him. Dh goes out a lot but I expect him to ditch the odd run or day out at football for time with me if there's something I'd like to do and Friday/Saturday are important nights to occasionally spend together imo

He doesn’t prioritise you so I would get rid and find someone who does.

Can’t you go out with friends? Stop waiting in for him, do you own thing.

What's the point of being in a relationship with someone who you never see on the best night to go out in the week? I'm not saying Saturday night is sacred couple time but wanting to occasionally do something with your partner then is hardly unreasonable

How has this come about? DH and i socialise separately sometimes but we consider weekends to be our shared social time and it is very rare for us to be out separately on a Saturday evening. It sounds very odd.

No children together and they are grown up. I do see my friends but they tend to see their partners on Saturday nights. I don’t expect every Saturday night but the odd one and being a priority would be nice!

On that basis, I think I'd be ending it and looking for someone who does want to spend time with me.

I guess he's not much cop on Sundays either if he was out drinking.

Could you go with him?

What would happen if you suggested cinema/dinner/something on a Saturday night?

I have a few questions.
Why are you not going out with him to whatever activity he is doing?
What else is on offer for Saturday night? My ex had the only thing on offer - Netflix on the sofa. I'd rather be out with my friends.
When did this start?
What does he say when you talk to him about it?

Pub with the boys do not invited. He says friends are important. I get Friday night and that is all I see him over the weekend

Do you spend Saturday day time with him? If not, could you do so as a compromise? If not I would take up a hobby that fills the whole of Saturday so that I was happy staying in and having an evening to myself on Saturday night.

You are not a priority. On that basis alone I would bin him.

I think that is my feeling I am not a priority and after two years should be more of a priority!

Hmm. When else do you see him?

Has he always gone out with the boys on Saturday nights, even when you started dating? Or did he used to go out with you?

we do 2 nights a week that is all

Have you told him this?

People get what they tolerate.

For some people they prefer this kind of set up. Lots of space from each other.

But you obviously don’t and it’s been long enough. No one needs to spend every single sat eve with their mates at a pub. If he is still being rigid in how he lives, with no give or take for a partner i’d be off tbh.

Make arrangements with friends to go out Saturday night.

If you relationship isn't working for you, consider ending it and finding one that does.

Your original post reads as he spends no time with you, now we find you spend time together on the Friday not. It's not unreasonable he has time with friends too. If your friends aren't available why not make some new friends who would be available on a Saturday.

Well he obviously has a list of priorities and your place is second on the list to his friends.

Do you know these friends ? Because
of course it's acceptable for him to have solo outings with his friends some weekends but for you never to be invited along to whatever they get up to would ring alarm bells for me, quite apart from the obvious snub to you .

Honestly OP you are worth so much more than being someone's second best.

I think it would also depend on what you do on the nights you have together. If he comes to yours, gets fed and watered I would be miffed