Sick to death of being alone every Saturday night

[Ghlp]

Long term boyfriend spends every Saturday night in the pub. I would like to see him the odd Saturday!

I’m married to one of these. Spend a lot of weekend nights home alone.

Who is your DP socialising with? Mine is with divorced (multiple divorces in some cases) single men. I’ve pointed out that he will soon be a divorced man too unless he changes. I think it’s a mindset, bloke in pub, woman at home. You might need to put this one back

I dont think you are aligned with interests and priorities

no point trying to change him. Find someone else

Ideally he goes once a month and
the other Saturdays involve going out together to the pub or dinner or staying at home and cooking a meal

I’m not dictating to him.

You don’t need to justify the fact that you don’t want a man child who just can’t possibly miss his set weekly meeting with his friends. Yes it’s important for both men and women to maintain friendships at every age but it’s very immature and teenage behaviour to have this “it must be every Saturday night or else.” Kind of attitude.

If that’s what he wants fine but it’s not what you want and you need to stop quieting yourself because you’re scared to lose him.

You should be able to be open and honest about what you want in a relationship and not accept any less.

what happened at weekend OP?

He went out Saturday as normal

Now you know where you stand with him, at least. Be wary of any hollow promises to change that will likely follow at some point after you've dumped him!

Better to be on your own than to be badly accompanied.

Why is seemingly this man for you better than being with no man?. You';re lonely now within this relationship and that is a bad place to be in. He is calling all the shots here and he knows it too. He knows how you feel and he does not care.

I know, he is surprised I don’t want to see him

So he couldn’t even prioritise you for one Saturday? Please say you’ve dumped the loser?

Yes he is dumped

Ah shit. I'm sorry @Ghlp . You really weren't asking for much and you've done the right thing. Sure it hurts like hell though 😔

Good riddance. You deserve better.

@Ghlp did he live at your house?

What a shame, but you now know exactly where you stand.

Well done for having a backbone and pride.

I’ve seen so many saddo men like him over the years propping up the bar with their saddo mates, who they prioritise seeing over and above anyone else. It’s so selfish and they don’t deserve being in a relationship 😔

Good for you.

So pleased, onwards and upwards, you deserve better!