What to do with partner who gambles ?

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I won’t bore you but we have been together 5 years.
Did not realise the extent of his gambling issues till we moved in.
He transfers me the bill money (his half ) and then he spends every last penny on online gambling.
This month he spent £800 in one day.
Lied for a week saying he had money left (he didn’t)
I have a betting account that I only use on a Saturday for Irish lottery but every night I end up having to top up £5 for him or he honestly goes on and on and on.
With the please please
I won’t ask again but then obviously he does.
I try and go a night without topping up but the way he goes on is ridiculous.
He will be moody,not speak,not eat his tea,not help with housework.
I have told him no more.
Im so sick of it
Every month he says he is only going to top up £30 but £800 is the most it’s been in a while.
December was £1000 in two days.

What does he do ?re

The above is a very sobering thought OP. You should do that check today.
I don't like the sound of him acting out, sulking, etc to force you to give him access to your gambling account.

You should close that account today. Delete it from your phone. Change your passwords to accounts and set your iphone accounts to only be accessed by your facial recognition.

He has stolen thousands of pounds for the holiday that never happened from you. I just knew from your other thread that he would be a gambler/coke head/alcoholic.
Please value yourself and get rid of him.

I had an ex like this years ago. He never changed. He took out a loan and gambled it. Then he got one of those log book loans on his car and came begging to me to pay it or he wouldn’t be able to get to work. Then he did that again as soon as I’d paid it back. Would cry with shame and guilt and promise to change. Then he started borrowing from our friends and my family (of course id gone along with hiding the gambling problem) would tell them he didn’t have enough petrol to get home or no money for my birthday gift etc. so I was shamed into paying them back for him. He got an overdraft on our joint account we had for bills and I couldn’t get my fucking name off the account while it was overdrawn that kept me with him for months while I tried to leave.

by the end I was working full time and then two evening/weekend jobs.

Im so unbelievably anti gambling now I won’t consider satin anyone who gambles not even a social poker night with friends. I never sought support when I was in it but I’ve heard over and over again gamblers never change and I believe it.

I’d leave him too. A flutter occasionally is one thing, but £800!!!

I just connected this to your other thread, but thought when I read about the holiday that he was probably using the money to gamble.

He is deep in his addiction and does not see it as a problem. Coercing you for money is horrible - plenty of gamblers lie, cheat and steal and do all kinds of things they would not do if they were not gambling. But most would not pressure their partners for money.

It seems clear he has no respect for you. For your own sake, get out as soon as you can.

Help for you.
https://www.gamcare.org.uk/news-and-blog/blog/way-forward/

You need to do whats best for you.
I had a problem with gambling myself i was buying shopping for the kids paying my rent and then gambling the rest every single time I got paid I felt sick to my stomach when I lost as your then forever chasing the win to get back what you lost. It wasnt until I checked my betting account and realised in about 6 months I had spent over £30.000 i actually got myself on gamstop I deleted all my accounts and came off everything.
I spent the night i realised crying because I thought about what I could or bought with that amount of money!
He will only change if he really wants to change it can happen as I did it but like I said only HE can do it if he wants to