I always find these threads , and there has been many, not realistic, often over romanticised, as just no one is wandering around in the first flush of love after many years together, as some posters are basically indicating. I’ve never ever met anyone where that’s the case.
I love my husband, I’m happily married, I’ve been with him 37 years since I was 20, we have been through some rough times, not in terms of the relationship, but life, and some good times, we are content. We support each other if and when required, and are a happy family unit with our now adult child. We talk and we communicate.
is it perfect, no of course not, we seldom argue, but it does happen, we can disagree, generally about minor shit like taking the bins out,
do I have a good marriage, yes I do, if I was to give you one bit of advice, is romance fades, love is whay endures.
do you love each other, not care for, like, but love. Is there support, communication, mutual goals, kindness, do you have independence when required.
because that’s what matters, if those things don’t exist, then it is better for the marriage to end, but if there is love, kindness, support, etc, then romance isn’t what it’s all about.