I will briefly summarise while trying not to be outing. DH’s dad not in his life much since 6. But still kept semi regular contact. DH was always accommodating and happy to see him. The dad remarried after leaving DH’s mum and was married 30 years (no further children) until 2nd wife passed away 4 years ago. Our kids are his only grandkids. Grandad would be generous financially to our kids with money at Christmas and birthdays which was usually the only time he saw them. I want to stress this was never expected, but the generosity was always appreciated.
Anyway he met a lady shortly after his wife died, they were married very quickly within a year. Since the marriage three years ago the amount of birthday/xmas money has decreased each year to the point that we’re now down to a tenner in a card. Going from very generous to a tenner. It’s not the money that bothers us at all, it’s the change since the new marriage. There’s no money concerns on his side. He’s very comfortable and has plenty of holidays etc. He has no mental health/dementia issues.
I am concerned and I can’t quite put my finger on why. I’m also slightly upset on behalf of my kids as they’ve noticed the fairly sudden change. Last year DD1 got £40 and DD2 got £20 when it came to her birthday a month later. Kids do notice these things especially when birthdays are close together and they’re only 2 years apart in age.
DH thinks it’s bizarre but he wouldn’t ever bring it up. Nor would I. Just interested in views and how others might feel in this scenario.