Friend very nasty

[PerkyOchrePeer]

In short ive not been well. Friend hadn't asked jiw i eas. I challenged her and she said she's been busy. I said nobody is too busy to say how are you. The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap. I was trying to phone her. Couldn't get through then she tried ringing me but I still wasn't well so couldn't answer as phone off. I wrote her a letter explaining its wasn't well etc and that I had been blocked suddenly I was unblocked from. Wassap and told her id written to her and she replied saying dont send stupid letters. All letters will be destroyed without reading and then she blocked me again. What a nasty person.

Cliticising is the BEST typo ever, especially for this poster 😂😂😂

It's not them. It's you.

For heaven’s sake, OP, that was a joke, about a genuinely amusing typo made by someone else.

And yes, it references your pattern of posting angry tirades on here about people who don’t behave as you think they should, whether it’s asking how you were within a set period after a hospital day procedure or showing you around on holiday. But you don’t seem to have any insight into your own patterns of behaviour, or your rigid thinking about others’ behaviour.

And, yet, you'll be back again. Being, again, a "fucking moron".

Who cares this place is full of bullies and im not about to change to be accepted. Life is too shoet

And, yet, you keep coming back. Who are you trying to convince? Us or you?

Respectfully, @PerkyOchrePeer — this hair-trigger temper is exactly why you keep falling out with people. You’ve generally had good advice on here about how your rigid, black and white thinking has a significant impact on your relationships. Anyone who’s been reading your posts over time recognises that you’re probably neurodivergent in some way, though, again, you responded with fury to the suggestion this might be the case from the results of a workplace assessment.

Would it not be easier to acknowledge that the world and the Internet are not in fact full of ‘bullies’ and people mistreating you, but that your own behaviour may be contributing to the dynamic that leaves you feeling angry and victimised by so many interactions?

I found this on̈ Google

is a widely used parenting and discussion forum with 8 million users that often functions as a support network. However, it has faced criticism for fostering a contentious, sometimes harsh environment, leading some to describe parts of it as having a bullying, "clique"

So why is it your choice of forum for everything from diagnosing whether you have shingles or an allergic reaction to hair dye to holidays to Adelaide to falling out with a friend about forwarding the postal address of a mutual friend?

It is hard to be supportive of someone who refuses to listen, has a temper, and doesn't understand basic communication.

Hopefully your 3 friends can offer better advice.

In the hope that someone here sees things from my point of view. The 3 friends never criticise. In fact one of them said I need to move away from toxic people who have nothing good to say about me.

Writing letters to someone after they failed to ask ‘how are you’ when you had an outpatient appointment is unhinged.

Adding ’I hope you don’t get ill’ at the end of the letter is passive aggresive.

Everyone who disagrees with you is a ‘fucking moron’ - again, unhinged and unnecessary.

You seem to have a lot of anger/frustration in you.

I wouldn't have the anger if people treated me the same as the 3 friends who have never given me any cause to doubt their sincerity

You come here ranting about 'friends' that fail your increasingly bizarre friendship tests, cutting people off for nothing.

And then you rant some more about everyone here being "fucking morons."

(We'll gloss over the frequent typos and errors in your posts, shall we?)

No, you don't need to "change to be accepted," but you might find it more productive to chill the hell out and stop frothing at people.

As I get older @PerkyOchrePeer I have realised having a few good friends is enough.
You don’t need many more friends than that, although it’s nice to have wider social circles.
This place can become challenging and I don’t think it helps you.
I think you would better talking to your three good friends.
There are clearly some issues going on for you in terms of getting offended easily, or hitting out at people, both on here and in real life.
This is just a site. None of us here are qualified doctors or therapists, we don’t get to know a whole person, in person, we just get snapshots of someone else’s life.
The reason I understand becoming defensive is that I can tend towards that myself, but I have come to understand via therapy that it’s really not helping myself or my relationships.
I would take a break from posting on here.
And I would take ‘cliticising’ as a huge win as I love words and I’m going to use that whenever and wherever I can.
Go easy on yourself. And maybe calling people you’ve never met fucking morons shows that for all sorts of reasons you are hurt and upset right now.
Talk to your friends in real life. That’s going to help you personally so much more.

You have 3 good friends so for your own peace of mind, stop trying to engage with the 1 that keeps upsettinh your inner peace.

No need to cling to more drama, let go…

Why did you write a letter to someone who had blocked you on social media? Pretty clear they didn't want contact.

It was ages ago and I think i wanted to get them know exactly what I thought of them. Then about three months later they unblocked me and lied and said they never blocked me but dropped their phone down the toilet which caused it to malfunction I didn't believe a word of it. Things were OK for a while, but then things got pear shaped again and she had a go at me because something happened in the news which she mentioned and I hadn't heard about sk she very rudely told ne I should take more notice of the news and the. She said children kniw what's going on and you're an adult sk you should be more aware abd not walk around in your own world. J ymthought that was so patronising, I told her I was calling it a day and blocked her from all areas of my phone. WhatsApp, sis texts and banned her number.ber so if she tried to ring ne she wont get through. She then blocked nd again fir about a week, but has now unblocked me again.

Ive kept her blocked and as someone else said on here ive got 3 friends who treat ne very well and never put nd down so uts vest to just stick with then and move on from thus one person who keeps treating me badly whenever the fancy takes her

Sending someone a message saying that they should have sent you an enquiry about anything to do with you and to be kinder is only ever going to get someone's back up. The fact they haven't sent the message is actually a message in itself - they don't care enough, or they have so much going on their lives that they can't deal with you right now. In either case, the answer to that is to back off for a while. The answer is not, and never is, send them a message demanding they change their behaviour. That is what will get you blocked.

It was ages ago and I think i wanted to get them know exactly what I thought of them. Then about three months later they unblocked me and lied and said they never blocked me but dropped their phone down the toilet which caused it to malfunction I didn't believe a word of it. Things were OK for a while, but then things got pear shaped again and she had a go at me because something happened in the news which she mentioned and I hadn't heard about sk she very rudely told ne I should take more notice of the news and the. She said children kniw what's going on and you're an adult sk you should be more aware and not walk around in your own world. I thought that was so patronising, I told her s calling it a day and blocked her from all areas of my phone. WhatsApp, sms texts and banned her number.ber so if she tried to ring me she would not get through. She then blocked nd again fir about a week, but has now unblocked me again.

Ive kept her blocked and as someone else said on here ive got 3 friends who treat ne very well and never put nd down so uts vest to just stick with then and move on from thus one person who keeps treating me badly whenever the fancy takes hert

Good lord, all this blocking and unblocking is exhausting. This is not normal adult behaviour surely? If I had a tiff with a friend I would not in a million years think “I must now rush to my social media accounts and block them!”

The only person I’ve ever blocked from anything was a man who was a threat to my safety. That’s a reason to block someone, not being in a huff over some imagined slight.

@Alltheyellowbirds the OP is the epitome of childish behaviour. It's relentless.

OP I think you should block mumsnet. Or vv.

Maybe but she also blocked me so she can be considered childish The difference is that at least i am honest about it whereas she pretended her phone was broken or says she has no idea what's going on. People who deny blocking do it because they dont want a confrontation