Friend very nasty

[PerkyOchrePeer]

In short ive not been well. Friend hadn't asked jiw i eas. I challenged her and she said she's been busy. I said nobody is too busy to say how are you. The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap. I was trying to phone her. Couldn't get through then she tried ringing me but I still wasn't well so couldn't answer as phone off. I wrote her a letter explaining its wasn't well etc and that I had been blocked suddenly I was unblocked from. Wassap and told her id written to her and she replied saying dont send stupid letters. All letters will be destroyed without reading and then she blocked me again. What a nasty person.

So you were communicating but you had a go at her for not specifically asking "how are you"?

Is this the same friend who didn’t want a souvenir from your holiday?

Hmm, it sounds like you want more from the friendship than she wants to give. Even as far as reading into the quality of christmas card she gave you as a measure of your friendship etc.

She may have other things going on in her life, when she said she was busy. It would have been nice for her to check in more and it does sound like younarent compatible as friends if there's that disconnect, but writing an actual letter to have your say and saying something along the lines of "let's hope you don't get ill" etc, that's not kind behaviour either and is a veiled way of saying I hope you get ill and people treat you this way essentially.

I'm curious how old you are tbh as I thought young from reading but then with writing a letter perhaps older.

You sound very weird and full on.

This. Did you go to hospital to a&e or an outpatient?
what is the actual “illness”

This all sounds batshit, Jeremy Kyle type drama.

So you had a hospital appointment and was not in hospital yet you expect everyone to run round asking after you. Then when she doesn't engage with your woe is me drama you sent a letter to guilt tripping her into being "kinder" to you

You're a drama queen and need to understand that this former friend is done with you and your makeup bs drama

In that case you need to accept that she would contact you IF SHE WANTED TO, but hasn’t contacted you because for some reason, or many reasons, she doesn’t want to be your friend any more.

It would have been kinder of her to say up front she doesn’t want the friendship to continue, but she has dropped enough hints so now it is up to you to pick them up.

Everyone, this is a poster who has been posting about her completely mad take on friendship issues for quite some time. Usually there is some arbitrary ‘test’ of friendship, often with someone she barely knows, that the other person ‘fails’, and @PerkyOchrePeer posts on here in a rage, often concluding that she can’t be bothered with the friendship.

Previous instances that I remember offhand are things like a friend of a friend kindly showing her around on holiday, but being furiously castigated several times on here because she didn’t keep replying to the OP’s WhatsApps after she’d returned to her home country, despite the fact that the OP had concluded that she didn’t actually like the woman who’d shown her around, was suspicious of her motives and thought she fancied her. There was another barrage about how this woman didn’t spend time with her at a barbecue when she visited the mutual friend’s home on holiday.

The common denominator is the OP’s hairtrigger temper about fandoms failing her friendship tests. There’s another one about dropping someone who told her to spend her money on herself rather than bring them home a holiday souvenir.

As PPs have said - it’s a waste of time replying to the OP, as any of her numerous threads about her many friendship non-issues and details of minor ailments. Another common theme of her threads is the OP speculating that women she meets are gay, or the OP telling us that she is attracted to women and then getting cross when people suggest this might mean she’s gay.

Oh god, I wondered if it was that poster. I won’t bother wasting my time.

Every time I see this poster I think 🤦‍♀️ … but I still read the thread anyway 😆

I think you're overthinking it all. I have some very good friends and we don't constantly message or enquire about each other's welfare. Life is busy. Get on with living it instead of making massive issues where there aren't any. Cliticising people for not doing something to satisfy your expectations is likely to make them even more reluctant to engage with you. Who needs the agro. It all sounds very childish. My sister writes long dramatic letter. I can't be bothered with it.

I bet a million pounds the 'friend' would tell a more interesting version of this.

The OP reprimanding her for not asking how she was and then writing a letter? Yikes.

Yep.

But you weren't "in hospital" were you, if you were an outpatient? I've had miscarriages with less drama than this!

Please also stop saying "wassap". It's really annoying.

The wassap thing drives me wild (quite irrationally I know). Just why? Is it a yoof thing?

I don't think so. I could be wrong, but I believe the OP is closer to retirement than she is to yoofness.

Indeed. All these years and she hasn’t figured out she’s the common denominator in these friendship situations.

Ive cone back here to clear something up. I do not always have issues with friends. I have 3 very good friends whom I get on well with. There is mutual respect and one of them ove known for 2o years, and we have not fallen out and ive never felt she has ever disrespected ne
I think u am picking the wrong people. One particular friend whom ive known for 45 years js frequently rude. She tells ne off over the silliest thing that most people would overlook. To cige an example she visited me a d saw a spec of dust on my bookcase and had a go at me calling me dirty and lazy. I also bought address and because the dress didn't come over my knees. It came just to the top of my knees. She told me I couldn't wear it because you have to have thin legs and my legs were too fat. And in fact, I am a slim, built woman, not overweight. Something else happened the other day which I won't go into so I blocked her from all internet platforms. And totalter I had just about had enough. I told her I was calling. It a day and only wanted respectful people in my life so she's finished. So I now feel so superior because I have stood up for myself and put my foot down, and she now knows that I won't take any rubbish lying down.

Aaaand here we go again, @PerkyOchrePeer. Yet another angry post about falling out with a ‘friend’ you don’t appear to like much and who mistreats you, just like you fell out with the hairdresser, multiple GPs, the dentist, the friend of a friend who showed you around on holiday, the old schoolmate who told you not to waste your money on a souvenir etc etc.

Doesn't it ever occur to you that the common denominator is you?

Are you saying the friend who called you lazy and thought your dress was too short has behaved like this for 45 years and you ignored it, or that she’s recently had a personality transplant and become critical?

If u bothered to read my post you will see that I said I have friends ive never fallen out with. Nk she didn't behave like this for 45 years. We were teenagers when we net and got on well but in the last 15 years it's not gone so well. She bought a property with help from her family and I rent and she said I should have bought a property. I said I couldn't afford to and said the only reason she could was because she had wealthy parents and she agreed. She would be nice for a while and then have a go and it happened so often I realised she would never change so im not giving her any more chances. If 3 friends of mine can always treat me with respect why can't she? one of my other friends is buying a 5 bed house and has never questioned why I dont own a property and thats because it doesn't matter because what's more i.portang is our friendship not what sort of property we live in

Yeah this poster is …. Interesting 😂 makes for an entertaining read over morning coffee.