Friend very nasty

[PerkyOchrePeer]

In short ive not been well. Friend hadn't asked jiw i eas. I challenged her and she said she's been busy. I said nobody is too busy to say how are you. The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap. I was trying to phone her. Couldn't get through then she tried ringing me but I still wasn't well so couldn't answer as phone off. I wrote her a letter explaining its wasn't well etc and that I had been blocked suddenly I was unblocked from. Wassap and told her id written to her and she replied saying dont send stupid letters. All letters will be destroyed without reading and then she blocked me again. What a nasty person.

This all just seems very immature. It’s not how adults behave. It’s not how friends treat each other.

I was hoping she would understand and be a bit kinder. After all, other people asked me how I was and one person said to me please keep me updated. Asking after someone who has been unwell is a nice considerate thing to do. Even if you are busy it only takes 1 minute to message and say how are you. I've actually got a friend in hospital and I messaged her and simply said hope you are doing OK abd she wrote back saying im getting better.

To ne that shows you care

Well yes, but this person had blocked you.
You should have just stopped contacting them after that.

Yes you are right.

'Not being well' is rather vague.

I remember you wassap. I wonder how long till this thread gets deleted.

The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap.

So you had a go at her for not asking after you, then a few days later she asked after you and then what? Your OP jumps forward a few weeks.

Did you reply to her asking after you?

Just seen thus message. No idea have not been in hospital. I only went as an outpatient. Yes she was the only friend who didn't ask

This. 🙄

Thought I'd accidentally entered kidney. 🙄🙄

Then realised it's a 3 random words user name, Frewurntlh generate weird threads.

I wouldn't even know. if some old friends were unwell for two weeks as we are not in constant contact. But when we meet up it's just the same as ever and we get on so well. I like it that way!

Oh, ain't that the truth. Not for nothing do they say "Grief rewrites your address book."

The whole thing sounds incredibly childish.

You aren’t coming out of this smelling like roses.

you sound quite overbearing in the relationship

reminds me of perkycoralpoet, who hasn't posted for a while. Similar username too...

You can't control other people op. You will drive yourself round the twist trying if you think you can.

She might have concerns for the man, perhaps his health has declined or he has had a fall and needed more of her time?
Maybe she has health concerns so personal that she prefers to keep them to herself??
There are many factors why this friend might not have met your expectations…….did you consider asking her something along the lines of “hi, xxx, haven’t heard from you in a while, I hope you’re alright”?

I once ditched a "friend" as all she ever did was talk about her ailments and the ailments of every person she knew, it was so draining.

If she got off her backside and did some exercise her health would have greatly improved. She basically used friends as taxis and pet sitters, put on a smiling face but was actually very sly.

Before I get trolled another friend has an illness and am happy to offer her help and support but she prefers to enjoy her time out with friends. She is a lovely lady.

I block calls on WhatsApp as the ruddy thing cuts off continuously which drives me nuts, so maybe the friend also has this issue or finds the calls disruptive to her working day or fancied a nap. Could be many reasons for a blocking.

Definitely. I don’t think it’s your friend who’s in the wrong, personally.

You wrote a letter after being blocked? And like, actually posted it? Really?

I would love to hear your the friend’s side of this.

Presumably you were concerned when a close friend who is usually caring didn’t ask after you and so messaged her asking how she was?

People often suggest sending letters but they rarely land well. Unless they're truly about trying to make amends or something, they just come across as another way for the writer to have a go and have their own say (which might be justified but rarely gets the reaction they want) without actually being there to hear the response. And if someone's blocked you, they're definitely not going to want to hear from you.

I'm sorry you've been ill OP and I hope you recover quickly.

What illness did you have? Did your friend actually know you were ill? How often do check in and ask how she’s doing?