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Friend very nasty

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PerkyOchrePeer · 01/02/2026 22:07

In short ive not been well. Friend hadn't asked jiw i eas. I challenged her and she said she's been busy. I said nobody is too busy to say how are you. The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap. I was trying to phone her. Couldn't get through then she tried ringing me but I still wasn't well so couldn't answer as phone off. I wrote her a letter explaining its wasn't well etc and that I had been blocked suddenly I was unblocked from. Wassap and told her id written to her and she replied saying dont send stupid letters. All letters will be destroyed without reading and then she blocked me again. What a nasty person.

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Gettoachiro · 01/02/2026 22:08

Just leave them be. Not worth your time or effort in either thought or action.

LaurieFairyCake · 01/02/2026 22:08

Not your friend Flowers

clearly you’re very unwell if it’s been going on this long

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PerkyOchrePeer · 01/02/2026 23:24

LaurieFairyCake · 01/02/2026 22:08

Not your friend Flowers

clearly you’re very unwell if it’s been going on this long

Im much better now. I dont understand her because last Christmas she gave me a lovely Christmas card which must have cost about £4 ,so it wasn't a cheap flimsy card out of a box of cards it was actually a beautiful card.

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Travelfairy · 02/02/2026 09:10

She did you a favour. Who needs 'friends' like that. Get well soon OP

TeaRoseTallulah · 02/02/2026 09:15

When you're ill or coping with family who are ill you soon find out who your real friends are.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 12:39

Travelfairy · 02/02/2026 09:10

She did you a favour. Who needs 'friends' like that. Get well soon OP

Yeah thanks

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EvangelineTheNightStar · 02/02/2026 12:41

is she the only friend who hadn’t asked that you challenged?
have you been in hospital?

feathermucker · 02/02/2026 12:49

How long were you unwell for? How long did she not contact you for?

whyaretheylikethis · 02/02/2026 12:52

You can't make people care and I wouldn't have messaged her saying I was disappointed and anyone can make time to send a 'how are you' style message. You don't know what they have going on that you don't know about.

However, I would have just taken note and distanced myself from the friendship, she clearly isn't a friend.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 02/02/2026 12:54

Friends & Nasty don;t belong in the same sentence. She isn't a nice friend so don't give her your energy. Focus on good friends or find some more. hope you are feeling better.

gamerchick · 02/02/2026 14:41

You wrote her a letter and challenged her because she didn't ask after you?

I dunno, I think this is one of those times I want to hear the other side of the coin.

Either way she can't meet the needs you're expecting. Focus on getting well and getting new friends

SilverPink · 02/02/2026 15:03

gamerchick · 02/02/2026 14:41

You wrote her a letter and challenged her because she didn't ask after you?

I dunno, I think this is one of those times I want to hear the other side of the coin.

Either way she can't meet the needs you're expecting. Focus on getting well and getting new friends

OP has a lot of “friend” issues. She’s always posting about them.

Flowersbloominwinter · 02/02/2026 15:04

Whats wassap??!

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PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 15:37

feathermucker · 02/02/2026 12:49

How long were you unwell for? How long did she not contact you for?

I was not wellfor two weeks and she was communicating but never asked how I was and then blocked me for about 5 days and unblocked me and now im blocked

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PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 15:41

gamerchick · 02/02/2026 14:41

You wrote her a letter and challenged her because she didn't ask after you?

I dunno, I think this is one of those times I want to hear the other side of the coin.

Either way she can't meet the needs you're expecting. Focus on getting well and getting new friends

No i wrote a nice polite letter saying I was unwell and what the hospital said. I would have messaged her to tell her but I was blocked. I ended by saying I wish she would nit get ill. I didn't have a go at her at all.

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Azandme · 02/02/2026 15:42

What has the friend got going on in her life?

I would imagine the other side of this story is somewhat different.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 02/02/2026 15:43

PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 15:37

I was not wellfor two weeks and she was communicating but never asked how I was and then blocked me for about 5 days and unblocked me and now im blocked

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But you've posted about the blocking and unblocking loads of times in "wassap" and everyone always tells you to stop contacting her.
Just move on with your life.

Sunnydayinparadise · 02/02/2026 15:47

Are you living in each other’s pockets?

I’m not sure I would always be aware that a friend was ill initially because we have all got a lot going on between family and just normal day to day life. However I would be concerned if I found out they were ill. Concern for people you are close to is normal.

The snapping texts back and forth and letters are all very dramatic.

MajorProcrastination · 02/02/2026 16:07

I had a hard time understanding your message. But what I did get from it is maybe that there's been some kind of misunderstanding. This blocking and not talking to each other stuff is all so very boring and childish. That's not how adult friendships and relationships work.

EvangelineTheNightStar · 02/02/2026 16:12

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 02/02/2026 15:43

But you've posted about the blocking and unblocking loads of times in "wassap" and everyone always tells you to stop contacting her.
Just move on with your life.

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Oh yes, remember this poster now

allthingsinmoderation · 02/02/2026 16:28

PerkyOchrePeer · 01/02/2026 22:07

In short ive not been well. Friend hadn't asked jiw i eas. I challenged her and she said she's been busy. I said nobody is too busy to say how are you. The. A few days later she said how are you the. A few weeks she suddenly blocked me on wassap. I was trying to phone her. Couldn't get through then she tried ringing me but I still wasn't well so couldn't answer as phone off. I wrote her a letter explaining its wasn't well etc and that I had been blocked suddenly I was unblocked from. Wassap and told her id written to her and she replied saying dont send stupid letters. All letters will be destroyed without reading and then she blocked me again. What a nasty person.

Im sorry you have been unwell and that your "friend" has been unkind to you.
The thing is you cant make someone care about you or control their actions.
I don think writing to someone who has blocked you is wise,theyve made it clear by blocking you that they don't wish to hear from you.
This friend has shown you that she isnt your friend .
The "let them theory" springs to mind. You can't control other actions only your own.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 19:55

Azandme · 02/02/2026 15:42

What has the friend got going on in her life?

I would imagine the other side of this story is somewhat different.

She hasn't really got anything going on. She looks after an elderly man and does his housework in her free time and he pays her

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gamerchick · 02/02/2026 20:00

PerkyOchrePeer · 02/02/2026 15:41

No i wrote a nice polite letter saying I was unwell and what the hospital said. I would have messaged her to tell her but I was blocked. I ended by saying I wish she would nit get ill. I didn't have a go at her at all.

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But why? If someone blocks me I don't write them a letter giving them an update on my life.

She, for whatever reason doesn't want to be your friend. Just stop contacting her.

hoodiemassive · 02/02/2026 20:06

A letter which ends with ‘I wish you don’t get ill’ is a bit menacing op.

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