Why are most people against being a virgin and single for life?

[Nando8039]

I'm 35, in london, two paid off properties, I have great friends and family. I've never been interested in relationships and I'm still a virgin, the thought of it makes me sick.

How do they know? I don’t care what anyone else does or doesn’t do.

What I don’t want, is to hear about it.

Because most people have a physical desire for sex and an emotional need for love and companionship.

Its not hard to understand is it, even if you dont personally experience those feelings

Are most people against it? I’ve never given it a thought. If it makes you feel sick, don’t do it. As for having two properties paid off, that’s got nothing to do with whether you’ve had a shag or not. Do what you want. You don’t need permission and you don’t need to announce it.

Why do you feel sick about the thought of losing your virginity?

Seems like an odd reaction unless there's some previous history or underlying issue?

Because we’re humans

It's ok not to want relationships or sex but people may be curious as it is unusual.

Most people are against being a virgin for themselves because we enjoy sex, but I can't say I'd care if someone else was happily a virgin.

Or do you mean people are sticking their noses into your life and trying to tell you to have those things.

If thats what you mean then tell them its not what you want and to stop banging on about it.

What does 2 paid off properties have to do with still having your V-plates? I'd still be skint either way.

Your life , your choice how you live it .
If your happy , and you sound it , then I wouldn't give anyone else's opinions a second thought .

What has being a homeowner have to do with virginity?! How do people know you’re celibate? I’m not against it as it’s none of my business. You do you! If you’re happy with it then you won’t be seeking the approval of others :)

Well if that’s how you feel I’m sure no-one is against you living that way. Whose business is it but yours?

Unless you mean why don’t other people choose to live that way, in which case it’s because many people enjoy having a partner who they love and who loves them. It can be a wonderful thing. And many people also enjoy sex.

'Most' people aren't against it.

It's not a choice the majority of people make but that's not to say they are bothered if you live that way.

I doubt many people are giving your private life much thought tbh.

Because, at a very basic level, humans are animals and are biologically wired to pair up and reproduce. On top of that, we’re culturally conditioned from a very young age through stories, films and fairy tales (Cinderella, Snow White, “happily ever after”) to believe that finding a partner is the ultimate life goal.
It’s only as you get older — especially if you haven’t been one of the lucky ones to find someone genuinely compatible — that you realise being single can be the lesser evil, and that “single for life” isn’t some tragic failure but often a far better option than being stuck in the wrong relationship.

I get what you mean. There is less of a social stigma around being single by choice now but there definitely still is a stigma round being celibate/ a virgin

Possibly because we are meant to recreate? Im not against it, but it is unusual. Have you ever had an orgasm?

I think it’s because most people want and enjoy those things.

It’s a bit like I feel a bit sad for people who don’t have children. I would never say that to their faces. But I wanted children and would be heartbroken if I didn’t have mine. It’s okay to want different things though.

Who says most people are against it??

If people want sex and relationships for themselves that is because they feel sexual desire and enjoy company and connection. They may also believe (not unreasonably) that a lot of other people want those too.

That's not to say they are "against" other people having different preferences, any more than hungry people are "against" not eating when you aren't hungry

Not wanting some thing for yourself is different to being against some thing.

I have friends who are childfree by choice. I’m all for women making their own decisions regarding having children or not but I wanted and I’m lucky enough to have children.

Uhhhhh, because most people like sex and having a partner. Seems fairly obvious.

No one is against that it's just they do not want that for themselves.
There is a whole movement of asexual and aromantic people, no one cares if you are a virgin or not.

OP is right. There is disapproval of women not being sexually active and finding a partner in our society. Labels are used like spinster, frigid, etc. Even in this thread people are calling OP odd and inhuman.

OP, there are plenty of women who, in their heart of hearts, feel like you do but they've been programmed to think it's unacceptable. Success is viewed in terms of sexual attraction and prowess. But trust me, plenty of women secretly envy you.

I just don’t see that virginity is relevant any more.
And I don’t care if people choose to be single or childless, none of my business.

I’m not a virgin but I am single and I don’t sleep with men (or women for that matter due to being straight) (this is by virtue of the single men on the market mostly not being exactly what I had in mind). Princes amongst men they are not…However, I’ll take that any day over settling for a crappy relationship. People I know do find it strange that I don’t date or use dating apps but tbh I value my time more than that. I have used them in the past and that was enough.

Much of it is media hype and peer pressure. There should be no pressure on anyone to be sexually active.

So one should judge anyone else. I think its odd they do. I don't judge anyone on their suspected sexual history.

I'm very happily celibate.