Why are most people against being a virgin and single for life?

[Nando8039]

I'm 35, in london, two paid off properties, I have great friends and family. I've never been interested in relationships and I'm still a virgin, the thought of it makes me sick.

OP why do you never repost? You started
a thread to inspire a debate which you do not
engage in. Apparently not for the first time.

That is more interesting than your sexual proclivities.

Are you saying all men are man children then? Because I’m pretty sure I didn’t.

I’m also a parent.

Pretty much any woman can find someone to sleep with them, that’s a fact, and men who can’t can pay a sex worker. So that really isn’t much of a factor.

After the age of 16/17 when everyone is talking about it how would anyone know unless you make a point of telling them?

People aren’t against it for other people, just themselves because most people have a desire for sex and companionship.

A woman might feel too unattractive to do so, or fear putting herself in a vulnerable position. A man may decide that paying for sex is incompatible with his values, or that having a small penis or underdeveloped physique will make him an object of derision. These are examples of the powerful influences I mentioned, which can moderate our base instincts.

Evolution itself is not actually a "theory" - it's an empirical fact, attested by mountains of evidence.

There are various theories that seek to explain exactly how evolution works, including Darwin's original theory of evolution by natural selection, and the Modern Evolutionary Synthesis, a modified version that integrates genetics.

Similarly, gravity is an empirical fact, but there are various theories of how gravity works, such as the early Newtonian model and later General Relativity, which incorporates Newtonian mechanics in a very different geometric context.

all are possibilities, but so is the fact that some people just don't want sex! Why do you find that so unbelievable?

There are lots of things humans do that go against what you'd assume would be our 'base instincts,' or "animal imperatives" or whatever you want to call it.

Staying in monogamous relationships.
Same sex relationships.
Trying to resolve situations through debate rather than fight or flee.
(Most) men stopping having children after a certain age rather than trying to propagate their gene pool until they die.
Women taking medication to prevent getting pregnant.
Actively limit our food intake and/or choose the less filling/nutritionally beneficial options
Not living in packs for protection.
Choosing to live in unwelcoming habitats.

I don't think people are 'against' it as such. They just don't want to live like that themselves.

This is the weirdest thread ever and OP is giving off major main character energy. Why on earth does anyone care if you're single or a virgin unless they want to be in a relationship with you?

I mean being a single virgin isn't the societal norm but so what? I am sure a lot of the judgement is imagined and projected. You don't need to justify your decisions either by stating you own properties. It is enough just to be yourself and to be happy about it.

This doesn't contradict what I said so, I assume, you'd want to quote the poster I replied to rather than me. They are the ones who need convincing.

I don’t think about anyone else’s sex life but my own. I don’t care who you do or don’t have sex with but I definitely don’t want to hear about it. I couldn’t care less if you’re a virgin or not. I’m not in the slightest bit interested so why are you so interested in everyone else’s sex live?

Humans are wired to want to have sex, just as they're wired to want to eat. Why do you find that so unbelievable? Many of us moderate this drive, or subvert it, or accept it cannot or should not be fulfilled, for any number of reasons, but the drive remains. Some people also do this with the eating drive, up to the point of death. The drive has not gone away, it has simply been defeated by the conscious mind.

Your choice, it should be respected. Just shut down conversation about sex, you may be unusual but no-one is harmed by this.

Don’t care love do what you want.

Because it's normal human behaviour to seek a partner and want to reproduce. It's instinct. It's oK if you don't feel that.

Biology.

In what way is it not ok?
Who will even know or care?
I’ve never heard any adult discussing the virginity or not of another adult.

People are against you choice to remain single and celibate, that’s purely your choice. The two things would annoy me if you were preachy towards people who don’t choose your lifestyle or you complaint about supporting others dc with taxes , them having to take time off due to dc etc, each to their own. Remember if you don’t have dc you will need to make careful decisions about older age

Btw how do they even know unless you are telling them?

I have concluded that it is because it is different, OP, and people don't usually like/approve of anything that is outside of the norm.

I used to get very tired of people putting pressure on me to be in relationships that I didn't want... from 16 onwards. Many years later, I think they've given up all hope of me being their version of 'normal' because I am happy as I am, on my own. My mother has come to realise that singledom is almost something to aspire to!

Are we assuming that OP is a woman?

I think you over estimate people's interest in you (and the state of your vagina).

NRTFT, but just because there are men willing to have sex with me doesn't mean I automatically find them attractive. Finding someone shaggable is hard!

OP, do whatever you want, nobody cares. Your other life achievements are totally unrelated to your sex life, so I don't know why you thought them mention worthy in this context. And don't judge others for doing something that their DNA programmes them to find pleasurable.

No one is using labels like spinster or frigid.

I haven’t been in a relationship for years and no one is bothered about it. I never get odd looks or pitying (unneeded advice). I am totally happy with my decision to stay single and that probably projects on to others so I never get hassle.