Anonymous message to partner

[Dontknowwhattobelieve2]

My partner has received a message on WhatsApp this evening from an unknown number stating..

Hey. I’ve recently been for an STI test and my results have come back as positive for chlamydia. I have been asked to inform any recent sexual partners and to advise them to get tested themselves. So sorry.

She won’t say who she is, only that he invited her back to his house after a night out in November (I’m not aware of any nights out that he’s had while we’ve been together, it’s something he’s never been bothered about, he also has his son full time so rarely has a night off) and that once they went back to his they had sex, when she left he passed on his number but she never contacted him as she wasn’t interested in seeing him again.

We don’t live together so it could be possible that he invited her to his and I wouldn’t have a clue. He’s adamant that he hasn’t cheated on me. I just don’t know what to believe.

Did she know his name and roughly where he lived/can describe his house or bedroom/describe him?

if all that adds up, i would think shes telling the truth.

Exactly what I was gonna say!

It could be that the guy gave her the wrong number, either deliberately or on purpose. I’d be tempted to contact her and see what other info she can give you to check if it’s him

Well, how did you find out about this message?

If you had his phone and saw the message, then called him out - likely nefarious.

If he has willingly shared it with you, then a bad joke or wrong number.

@MamaJennishe wouldn’t give any other details than that either she gave him chlamydia or the other way round. And couldn’t give the exact date but was between 2 weekends.

@T92 He has willingly shared it with me, I’m not with him tonight so he sent me the screenshots of the conversation.

Perhaps he is sending you the screen shots so that you will also think to get tested but is doing it in a way that he thinks he can avoid telling you the truth.

A bit strange she can’t give an exact date and no other detail….
if she’s lying she’s maybe hedging her bets by not committing to a specific date in case he was with you

Can you message her and just check she’s got a right name and person ?

@Holidayamaryliss His name and picture is on WhatsApp and she will have seen that, she was certain it was him.

I’m already booked in to be tested tomorrow as I’d rather be safe than sorry.

sounds a bit strange - surely she’d be willing to clarify that she definitely knows him

he getting tested?

Well it must be true and he’s shared it with you out of guilt?

Why wouldnt she say her name etc - isn’t it showing up on WhatsApp or a picture or if she’s saying I slept with you what difference would it make!
Surely he must know. Or it would be some kind of wind up?!

Is starting a message with 'Hey.' a commonplace thing to do these days?

Could be a hoax doing the rounds?

I always thought the clinics used to ask patients for the numbers and they would send the message on their behalf?

Could be wrong though obviously.

Doesn't sound at all like a genuine message to me. Like a pp says, probably a random hoax.

So she’s texted him and then you texted her?

how do you know the sender is female? 🤷🏾‍♀️

No. Its the person's responsibility to inform, clinic doesn't get involved.

If he had cheated and didn’t want you to know, isn’t it most likely that he just wouldn’t have shared this information at all?

I would message her myself and appeal to her for honesty, one woman to another, for your peace of mind/opportunity to move on and not waste your life with him.

He said there’s no point in getting tested himself as he knows it didn’t happen and has only had sex with me since his last test, my last test came back negative. Her picture was left blank and her name was “hey” which to me seems odd I just don’t understand why anyone or who would make something like this up.

Ahh ok.

I assumed the clinic might do it to save embarrassment or because someone might not want to get into conversation about it.

Or the person may have been abusive.

You have said that the message came in as an unknown number. That means she isn't a saved contact. You will need to check his phone, but just because you can see his name and photo it doesn't mean everyone on WhatsApp can. For example, only my contacts, people who I've added to my list, can view my photo and status, so you can't 100% be certain that she can see his photo.

So she hasn't said what her own name is? Where did they meet on this supposed night out? Does she know his address and can she recall any details about what his house was like if they went back there? I have no problem believing the worst of men but the story is suspiciously light on detail.

Can you call the number?