Anonymous message to partner

[Dontknowwhattobelieve2]

My partner has received a message on WhatsApp this evening from an unknown number stating..

Hey. I’ve recently been for an STI test and my results have come back as positive for chlamydia. I have been asked to inform any recent sexual partners and to advise them to get tested themselves. So sorry.

She won’t say who she is, only that he invited her back to his house after a night out in November (I’m not aware of any nights out that he’s had while we’ve been together, it’s something he’s never been bothered about, he also has his son full time so rarely has a night off) and that once they went back to his they had sex, when she left he passed on his number but she never contacted him as she wasn’t interested in seeing him again.

We don’t live together so it could be possible that he invited her to his and I wouldn’t have a clue. He’s adamant that he hasn’t cheated on me. I just don’t know what to believe.

The message I sent the other night still hasn’t delivered I also rang a couple of times through the day yesterday and it went straight to voicemail. He did tell me there’s no point getting tested as he knows it’s not true but understands I had it done for my own peace of mind, I blindly trusted my ex and months down the line I found out he had given me chlamydia so I would rather be safe.

He only has one ex(his sons mum) she’s not really involved in her sons life, hasn’t seen him in 5 years and drops a message in a few times a year. She has tried causing problems for him before with social services but this was years ago and before we got together but there is a possibility it could be her?

He didn’t tell me either of the dates she’s given that he didn’t have his son, which he usually does then we can plan the night together so I’m thinking he couldn’t have been out drinking like she claims but then if he intended on cheating he wouldn’t have told me anyway. Just a waiting game for these results now.

For the message to be a scam, there would need to be a purpose eg. to gain something from the victim. The message from what the OP described didn't provide a link to be clicked on and taken to a fake website. It didn't provide a phone number to be called, which would be premium rate. It was simply a message. The person appears to have now blocked the OP's partner's number. So how exactly is the person expecting to scam the OP's partner??? OK, it could be a prank from a random person. Unlikely.

The two can’t be connected. They just don’t make sense together! Sounds as if someone might be wanting to cause trouble.

I’ve just googled it, it’s a know scam…. They wait to see you are engaging in the message/are panicked and once you they then send links/blackmail threats

I’m normally as suspicious as they come but sounds like a load of shit to me. Fingers crossed for clear results

@Dontknowwhattobelieve2 there was a post last year from someone who received anonymous messages from someone on WhatsApp claiming they’d had an affair with her husband. After several days/weeks of sleuthing they identified the person and I can’t quite recall the connection but it was someone either she or her husband had a bad relationship/experience with, possibly work related and it was all lies.

Im not saying this means your partner is innocent but also consider that it’s hard for him to prove that he is as he can’t show you evidence of something that never happened. I’d also take the fact he told you straight away as a positive thing.

It all sounds suspiciously vague - no name, no photo, no details, can't contact them. It could well be someone out to cause trouble for him. The fact he willingly showed you isn't necessarily guilt, he could be just as bewildered as you are. Don't be too quick to jump to conclusions"he's guilty". Hopefully your results are negative. I would keep this in mind though and wonder if someone out there has a beef with him and could their behaviour escalate.

How is the OP supposed to know this? Get into a conversation with the person who sent the message?

for cruel fun. I too have had similar messages via email and text and I am a 70 odd year old female widow.

Where I'm based, the Sandyford offer a service where they'll contact ex partners for you, to communicate about sexual health matters such as this.

I'd be assuming the message was an automated tech thing, which would explain why there is no photo, doesn't accept incoming messages and doesn't take calls.

I think it sounds like a fishing/scam message.

I knew someone years ago that was embarrassed and got a positive test and brought a new SIM card to send the messages to her sexual partners to tell them then took the sim out and disposed of it. So it couldn’t be traced to her but she still let them know to be checked

Sounds like a hoax to me. She doesn’t even know his name.

I received an email telling me I’d been up to all sorts and they had photos and they were trying to blackmail me. Load of old nonsense.

This!

Its a scam of some sort. Block and don't engage further.

Could it be your ex?

For clarity: I don’t trust any men and do not like any of them particularly.

However, I jut don’t think that this person is telling the truth. If they are willing to contact someone they’ve slept with then why can’t they provide a bit more detail? It doesn’t ring true. I would be very cautious moving forward but I really think this might be a stupid prank or someone like his ex being malicious. I would struggle to have sex with him though if he didn’t get tested. If you are clear of chlamydia will that make you feel better? I don’t know much about chlamydia but is can it be caught if you use a condom? Are you likely to have caught it if your sex life is active and therefore you not using it maybe shows it’s unlikely he’s got it - if you know what I mean. Can you ask at the clinic? You are best placed to know if he’s likely to have had unprotected sex. Is he usually responsible (how did he act when you first got together for example?)

Also, it is very easy to cover up your cheating when you don’t live with someone. I don’t think he needed to show you the messages, opposed to a man living with his wife that has to work hard to cover up an affair and would rather show something than them finding it. He could just have another phone and you wouldn’t know or delete it she you would be none the wiser. I think he’s telling the truth. I would have protected sex with him going forward and keep your wits about you for any other signs.

It could be the first step in finding out if the phone number is active. Who is going to ignore a message like that?

I was scammed. I texted them( thinking it was my daughters new number. ., and they replied. They had nothing to gain by doing this prank, don't ask for details. Later found i found out it is a common scam.

As other posters have said, this is probably a hoax. I have seen other posts on this before i'm sure.

This sounds a lot like someone shit-stirring, particularly with the anonymous birthday card too. My money would be on an ex of your partner.

Maybe his ex trying to cause trouble.

Op this has got to be fake,
My thinking OK, so if I was advise via clinic to contact past persons I had slept with, remember there could be many ? Lots to inform, my msg,

Hay sam, sorry to tell you I texted positive and just letting you know as we had sex last Nov sometime, you probably don't remember, anyway sorry to inform you of this , just a heads up , Annie,

Now that's more plausible type of msg,

Would people remember from Nov maybe drunk who they slept with, never mind names or fone numbers,

100% sure your test will be negative op,

Sounds like a scam.