Anonymous message to partner

[Dontknowwhattobelieve2]

My partner has received a message on WhatsApp this evening from an unknown number stating..

Hey. I’ve recently been for an STI test and my results have come back as positive for chlamydia. I have been asked to inform any recent sexual partners and to advise them to get tested themselves. So sorry.

She won’t say who she is, only that he invited her back to his house after a night out in November (I’m not aware of any nights out that he’s had while we’ve been together, it’s something he’s never been bothered about, he also has his son full time so rarely has a night off) and that once they went back to his they had sex, when she left he passed on his number but she never contacted him as she wasn’t interested in seeing him again.

We don’t live together so it could be possible that he invited her to his and I wouldn’t have a clue. He’s adamant that he hasn’t cheated on me. I just don’t know what to believe.

This was my thinking, what is his relationship like with his kids mother? Other exes? I think I would start keeping a log of anything strange happening like this to see if a pattern emerges.

Good for you getting tested anyway.

He's got himself a Troll, not an STI!

Stop worrying.

Sounds a bit fishy to me but then I’ve known men lie for less than this. I’ve also known shit stirring exes or pranks too though.

Sounds like a hoax message.

Has he pissed anyone off? This one actually sounds like it could be malicious?

I’m so confused. When did you get together?

I think it’s a hoax

Possibly someone has it in for him, or for you.

Could it be an ex girlfriend making trouble?

If I received that text I would have deleted it knowing it had nothing to do with me and not given it another thought because I know i didn’t.
So why is he even wondering if it’s genuine or not?

Is this not a scam? Have a Google & see if it’s a well known scam

It’s a hoax, don’t ring back. Delete & move on.

& @Tpu

Well maybe that's what OP's boyfriend thought too, but it hasn't worked out very well has it? If he thought it was worth a laugh he could have shown it to his mates in the pub or son, if old enough; but the partner who you don't live with? The end result is erosion of trust, OP is obviously worried - why do that to a partner you care about?

I accept that your own circumstances may be different with rock solid trust, cohabitation etc

There are whole enterprises set up for the sole purpose of making lists of people who are susceptible to being tricked. If you respond, then you are on the ‘sucker list’.

Facebook is full to the brim of posts saying things like ‘Prince Harry only married Meghan for her money’ then hundreds of people respond in outrage and then their profile details are sold on for sixpence to people who are looking for people who are easily manipulated.

It could bf a jealous ex gf trying to stir trouble.

it’s a scam. Don’t reply to the number because they will sell on your details and you’ll be on a ‘suckers’ list for all sorts of crime.

Well first id err on the side of just in case and get tested. And if you have chlamydia Id assume he was a liar.

Id also be interested in whether hes getting tested..

It sounds like a scam to me.

My husband had a call nearly a year ago from a woman who addressed him by name and told him she had his "baby in my tummy". The call was from abroad (India I think). We had a good laugh as he barely leaves the house. She never called back.

The birthday card is an odd coincidence though, unless its part of a bigger scam or an attempt by someone who knows you/ him and wants to stir up trouble. Any jealous or troublemaking people around you?

Is he wondering if it's genuine? I got the impression he'd sent it to OP in a "look what an odd message I got today" sort of way.

If he'd actually cheated, it would surely be better for him to get himself quietly tested rather than telling the OP anything?

All seems very vague and cloak and dagger yet they were bothered enough to contact him

doesn’t seem genuine to me

The birthday card is odd though.
I had an ex who received an anonymous valentines card once. Swore blind he didn’t have a clue who it was from. Turned out it was from the ow he was seeing.

It sounds like a scam to me.

I don’t get why he’s shown you this?

Does he have form for trying to play mind games/make you jealous? It’s really weird.

An anonymous birthday card and now an anonymous text stating the person has a STI and effectively saying your partner has cheated on you. It smells like someone with an axe to grind, to be honest. The two things happening within weeks, in my mind is not a coincidence. Someone knows where he lives and his phone number. So it's someone he's had contact with. The fact the person claiming to have an STI refuses to give out their name, doesn't appear to know the date when they had sex and gave vague details, suggests the incident never happened. A person would give details, to remind the other person who they are and where/when they met, especially as it's supposedly been a few months since it happened! For all she knows, your partner could have a different woman every night!!

You have done the right thing by having an STI test though, to give yourself peace of mind.

Yes this.

I don’t get why he’s even mentioned it to the OP. I would’ve just thought “scam” and deleted. I’ve had ambiguous scam messages pretending to be from a child saying “mum, can u message me on this number - I’ve lost my phone and using my friends”. No name or other info. Even then I simply contacted my dc’s first and made sure before responding - it wasn’t them so I knew it was a scam and deleted it. Never respond to anything if you think it may be scammy!

Obviously in this case if he knows it’s a load of rubbish I don’t get why he’s would even engage or show the OP. All I can think is he’s guilty or he wants her to be on edge wondering if it’s true and is playing mind games.

Did he respond to the message OP or ignore it?