Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

I think you're upset that you didn't impress an unattractive man. By all means contact him but this will only boost his ego and make you appear desperate.

You travelled 10 mins.

This thread (story) is all over the place.

Communication skills are measured across the board, not just over the course of a coffee one afternoon

You sound delightful, think this guy had a lucky escape, sorry OP, if you came across anything like you are on this post, on the date, there is absolutely no questioning why he ghosted you

I think we all know you don't do it professionally.

TBH, I suspect he dodged the bullet here.

I can’t understand why, when he was clearly quite repellent to you, you are in the least bit bothered that he hasn’t made contact.

My time is clearly more valuable to me than yours is to you.

I like baldness - why are you so discriminatory

Why did you meet him at all if these are dealbreakers?

This being the case I don’t understand why you’re bothered he’s not been in touch? I’m confused 😅

Nothing is often the right thing to do and always a clever thing to say

Are your books more coherent than this thread?

Absolutely leave it, just delete him. No sense in sending that and tbh he clearly doesn’t want to date you anyway 😅 so that message will do nothing but give him satisfaction about how annoyed you are.

Stop spunking time on this thread and digging yourself into a bigger hole if time is so “valuable” to you?

Hats off to you though, this has been one of the most batshit threads I’ve read in a long time and very entertaining. ❤️

No idea - they sell, though, so perhaps

Yeah okay and you’re gutted that this ugly and socially awkward guy who wanted to follow you around Sainsbury’s didn’t text you back because…?

I don't know why he's ghosted such a catch.

;)

Liz Jones, is it you?

I’m not - I am not the one being utterly vile about a person I shared a ‘great date’ with.

You stated: ‘He's the balding, short, dentist-lacking bullet’

and later:

‘short, balding middle aged man with an undistinguished career and zero communication skills.’

I repeat - this poor man absolutely dodged a bullet in never asking to see you again.

I wouldn’t do anything.

I did online dating for a few years and met my husband through it. I had first dates with a few men who seemed keen, things went fine and they didn’t follow up - I just let it go, it’s the easiest way to weed out men who aren’t a good match for you!

I was going to say, if you are a successful author then it better not be fiction, because not a single thing you have written has been in the least bit believable, and your narrative and continuity is all over the place.