Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

Modest too!!

The ability to paste a name into Advanced Search isn’t really key to my job, no. It would be great if it were!

If your income has changed dramatically in the last three months, then I’m genuinely happy for you. I hope you’ve made progress with your health, as well. And that you’re managing to go low contact with your mum.

I don’t know now - my previous long term partners have been big texters and I like to be with someone who’s in touch at least once a day - and this date doesn’t seem to be into texting

I don't think she is 35.

No, Mum is still on about my weight even though I’ve lost weight mostly due to having more coffee than is healthy. I now have some loose skin and a sagging, deflated bust - I think I look worse now than before

This is a very different story to the "Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!" you sent him. Perhaps you shouldn't be casting aspersions about communication skills?

Some people are so antagonistic, aren’t they? I don’t care. I imagine you typing furiously away while your husband types on his phone across the room

Do not chase him - he'll see you as desperate. There may be a reason he hasn't called, maybe he didn't fancy you. He's probably seeing lots of women but def a bit rude not to reply.

Maybe he's reading this thread

And you also said then that you'd had a very interesting promotion.
How is that possible with being a best selling author who has her eye on doing edits all day?

It's very full-on to be a busy journalist and an author raking in Royalties. Yes, you could do both but one or the other will be your main role.

But you're answering every comment are you not?

Mumsnet allowing obvious bullshit like this is the reason people keep posting it.

Another one that doesn’t scan

More importantly it's funny, like some of the other limericks on here. Limericks are supposed to be playful and humorous - sometimes the 'clunkiness' adds to the humour and the charm,The OP's poem didn't 'scan' either.

The (professional) writers I know are creative types, but OP seems very rigid and is obsessing over the form of the humorous poems. I'd put meaning and, in these cases, humour over something perfectly scanning anyday. She could also unclench and have a laugh (at herself a bit?). But I'm a reader not a writer (Shamone).

TBH I'm a bit sceptical of the whole thread and so going to just enjoy other posters poems, limericks and comments

This is a 99 on the Bullshitometer but the OP's replies are golden 🤣

Some people are so antagonistic, aren’t they?

I've read your other threads and in all of them you are extremely rude to anyone who won't go along with your point of view.

You posts are full of sarcasm, aggressiveness.
I feel sorry for you because you are wasting a huge amount of energy which must be draining (or maybe you thrive on drama) and not getting much out it.

If you want help, maybe try being a bit nicer to posters even if you can't agree with them?

Just a thought.

Just for the OP, a limerick that 'scans' :

There once was a 'wealthy' MN 'writer',
Who fancied bald men with teeth slightly shiter.
When one date didn’t text,
She got terribly vexed,
It took him two days to reply — the blighter!

with a little AI editing help!

LucyInTheSkyWithoutDiamonds,

1. You have spent the past three and a half hours commenting on my thread, seemingly without breaking to eat or drink or even use the bathroom - several comments a minute from you. I’m a little worried you’re getting a bit fixated
2. You have also gone back through my posts for years, piecing together information about me when I have shown no curiosity towards you or your personal life or background whatsoever. I have had stalkers before - male and female - and take action immediately in every case. I have reported your posts as I think you need to step away from it for a bit, as I shall be also.

Leave out slightly and put the blighter on a line of its own.

A Mumsnetter bragged with great flair,
Of novels she’d “launched everywhere”;
But her plots were all tall,
And she’d written none at all—
Just fanfic and hot air to spare.

Are you still here?! Another fixated person, oh dearie me

Is this by ChatGPT?

@WildflowerGardens You can't report anyone for the time they spend on a thread.

That's not against talk guidance.

However, do report away and also maybe report the others who actually linked to your former threads and have come on this journey today with you.

All the best with your date, by the way.

If he hadn't have come back for seconds then he would've had a lucky escape by the sound of it

I'm now feeling quite sorry for the cavity challenged, balding, basically educated little fella 🥺