Would you expect your spouse to accompany you for a operation with a general anaesthetic?

[LucyLoo1972]

Had my gallbladder out and my husband just went to work as normal. Should I have expected him to come with me for the operation, I was quite anxious as I ahev a lot fonhealth anxiety and don’t like hospitals. I’d never had an operation before. Would you expect them to be with you?

Not totally sure how to answer this really. I am physically safe

When I had surgery I was admitted the day before. My husband took me and waited until I was settled in etc. On the day of my op I was given an approximate time. My husband came in to the hospital and accompanied me as far as he could. It was something he wanted to do and I appreciated him being there. As soon as I was back in my room staff called him and he came back to the hospital. This was a private hospital so perhaps it made a difference to him being able to come and go as he pleased.

Did you ask this previously? No, not necessarily. I’ve had 3 cancer surgeries in the past year. Waiting for 2 more in the next couple months.

There was only one where Dh came in the pre-op to speak to the surgeon and nurses with me (it was a big 9 hour operation and he needed to know if he should come back later, what time, how they’d contact him, etc). He left after I got taken to theatre and came back that evening.

Otherwise, he drops me off in front of the hospital and I take myself in and message when I’m done. He has kids to sort out and the dog and needs to work. I wouldn’t expect him to hang around all day and I wouldn’t hang around if the roles were reversed. I’m a big girl and I don’t really need him under foot anyway.

Not sure about expect, as I wouldn’t be too fussed either way; but he would (and has).