Younger (much younger) man

[Lily2505]

I’m 63. It’s not that I look “young for my age”; more that I am quite fit physically and am blessed with good skin from my dads side.

I’m three and a half years post a truly awful divorce and have had a number of dates but, they haven’t gone further than a coffee or two.

I’ve met an attractive man. Funny. Clever. Hot. But, where I was hoping for someone the same age or maybe slightly older, he’s ten years younger. I’m flattered but honestly, I’m incredibly nervous about sleeping with this guy. I’m SO aware of the age gap. I’m having a great time. We have fun and laugh together a lot. He too has gone through divorce after a long marriage.

Am I being ridiculous? I ought to be winding down and knitting for my grandkids now, not this!!?

10 years isn’t THAT much. Go and enjoy yourself!!

10 years is no age gap

Ask me how I know 😂

10 years is nothing in your 50s and 60s! I thought you were going to say 20 or 30 😂 Go and enjoy him!

10 years at yours / his age is nothing!

I am 8 years older than dh and met him when he was 22 and I was a divorced mum of one. We are still together nearly 20 years later.

10 years? Do it!!

That is nothing.My MIL is 68 and dating a 51 year old! If you like him go for it

I wouldn't worry about that gap!

Also, in the nicest possible way. I feel like you're probably past that stage of rapid and sometimes sudden change and ageing, which I might worry about if I was say in my late 40s and considering saying someone 10yrs younger at that point.

10 years isn’t ‘much younger’ 😂 I was expecting you to say he was in his 30s or something!

I’d barely consider 10 years to be an age gap at all. It’s fine!

Good god girl just go for it!!

Oh good god, thanks ladies!! That’s good to know! My girlfriends have said the same but I’m just nervous in case nothing works that well anymore iykwim. Menopause is a shocker for ladybits and I can be as fit as a flea but… doesn’t mean everything is like it was at 25 or 35 or even 45!!

10 years is fine at this stage! Im in a relationshop with a man 15 yrs older, hes the same age as you OP.

I did question it initially, but we get on SO well i decided that age is just a number. We have a great time together.

If you're having any problems down there how about using blissel gel? It's fab.

Go for it. My dm was 27 years older than her dp. Were together until she died of old age.

10 years isn’t much at all. Go for it.

I wouldn't say 10 years is 'much younger'.

If you stay together, he'll be dating a 73 year old when he's your age.

Would you be ok to date a 73 year old now? If so, there's your answer.

Grab him and have as much fun as you can. Just don't move him in, lend him money or get into any complicated entanglements that you cannot run away from at a later date. Call me cynical, but there are an awful lot of cock-lodger types out there looking for an older nurse with a purse. Now, your man might not be one of those, and you might end up having a very good time. Just use your head and not your heart or knicker-elastic to make that decision. Good luck!!!

Can you imagine a 63 year old man worrying about the age gap with a 53 year old woman? They wouldn't think twice. He's been an adult for decades, if he finds you attractive and you find him attractive then just enjoy it. Women live longer than men so it makes sense to have a younger man in old age.

10 years is nothing. My DM married a man five years younger than me!

Christ I was expecting you to say he's 22.

Absolutely go for it!

To echo others, thought you were going to be 60 and 30 or something! What about it makes you feel uncomfortable? I can't imagine he's planning on children in the future, or that you don't have any overlap of reference points or life experience?

If he dies he dies

Was really expecting you to say he was 25, many guys that age do seem to find older women attractive.
So obviously go for it and enjoy it, really don't worry about anything he will be thrilled to get your clothes off!
Have fun

Why would he die if he’s younger?

I'm 62 and had the best sex with a 45 year old man, no longer together but forever grateful x

@JohnofWessex think it's a reference to Joan Collin's comment when asked about how she'd manage the age gap in her marriage (to someone 30 years her junior.) Nice bit of reverse-trolling from Joan there 💅Or it's a reference to Apollo Creed that's gone waaaay over my head 😂

That's bang on....pardon the pun 😉