Younger (much younger) man

[Lily2505]

I’m 63. It’s not that I look “young for my age”; more that I am quite fit physically and am blessed with good skin from my dads side.

I’m three and a half years post a truly awful divorce and have had a number of dates but, they haven’t gone further than a coffee or two.

I’ve met an attractive man. Funny. Clever. Hot. But, where I was hoping for someone the same age or maybe slightly older, he’s ten years younger. I’m flattered but honestly, I’m incredibly nervous about sleeping with this guy. I’m SO aware of the age gap. I’m having a great time. We have fun and laugh together a lot. He too has gone through divorce after a long marriage.

Am I being ridiculous? I ought to be winding down and knitting for my grandkids now, not this!!?

I'm 36 and my DP has just turned 26 and I always forget about the age gap! He's ace. Go for it!

10 years would only be an issue at a much younger age where a power imbalance might come into play. In your 50s and 60s it's nothing to worry about at all. Have fun and don't overthink it!

It was a Tony Curtis joke

10 years either way older or younger is fine.

So, a few things …

I’m pleased to say, there’s no cock lodging going to happen. He’s financially stable and absolutely not mooching for a “sugar-mummy”! We do have an overlap of reference points in lots of things obviously but, it’s just strange to me that I was an adult, working and doing “life” whilst he was still in primary education 🤣🤦‍♀️!

He’s not bothered one bit about the age gap. He’s Italian so, had dark hair which is now silver grey, so he looks “older” in that sense. I like that he’s very confident and looks after himself physically (gym/running/sport … all that). I’ve been divorced for over three years and without sounding shallow, I hope, the men my age and older, those in my age range, seem to have given up in the “presentation” department, shall we say.

I thought it was going to be twenty or thirty years too. To be honest the bits can be affected in your forties with peri anyway, just be prepared I guess!
Prepare emotionally too, whatever their age because ‘men’.

Ah have a wonderful time! I have been a huge advocate for lube since my late 40s, not because I ‘need it’ but because it makes sex so much better (and if I sometimes do need it then that’s fine). But I’d say that whatever the man’s age. Yes is my favourite. Enjoy!

And the same advice to him of course

10 years? I thought you were going to say 20 plus years!
Dh is 12 years younger than me and I barely notice anymore, I’m aging ok and also try to not give a shit what folk might think/say.
He’s 41 and I’m 53.

I’ve not heard it before, it’s funny.

64 in Jan
I love going out dating and seeing what new guys bring to the table, never over 55, if there boring their soon dispatched to the history of memories

I could easily call on at least three guys (not at the same time lol) for dates days out or rumpy pumpy should I so desire no one of those is anywhere near 60

My youngest date I’m to self conscious to say how young but it was fun!

GO FOR IT, he obviously likes you!

I thought you were going to say he was 32!!

I am sixty and wouldn’t worry about that age gap at our age.

Go for it!

Agree, 10 years is fine at your age.

I thought you were going to say he was half your age or similar. You'll be fine. He fancies you, you fancy him. The age gap is perfectly fine. He knows how old you are (or thereabouts), so he's not expecting a lithe 20-something body in the bedroom.

10yrs😂, I thought you were going to say he was 25!

OP, stop farting around and get those knickers off! ❤️

My friend (66) is 12 years older than her partner (54). They've been together for 10 years now.

You win 🤣

Go for it. This isn’t a big age difference.

Live your life girl!

i have 2 63 year old male friends who both separately and earnestly told me that they consider 44 to be there absolute cut off point for dating. Neither are Clooney a likes

the 10 year gap wouldn't enter a Man's head. It shouldn't both you.

you're 53 and 63, there really isn't that much difference. I was expecting him to be 23!

Thank you, Joan Collins! 😉

OP, may we have an update ❤️?

Hardly a gap at all. My man is 33 and I'm 54. It's absolutely fine.

10 years isn’t an issue at 53/63! 😂 Thought you were going to say he was in his 20s/30s. Enjoy yourself!